To think my neighbour is taking the piss?

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So for months I’ve put up with new neighbour renovating their house. Even banging on walls at 7am on Sunday morning and at on point facing the drill so loud I had to cancel my meeting.

They now have a new skip which is right next to my driveway and makes it difficult for me to reverse out - again I’ve said nothing. Now they’ve started leaving stuff AROUND the skip rather than in. So now it’s even worse.

I’m so fed up of living here. I thought the neighbours before them were bad.

is it a shared drive or out they leaving the stuff on their side, which although a pain is their right

How many times do things like this get posted? People take the piss when you LET them.

"Again I've said nothing" <-- that is your problem. Yes,they sound inconsiderate dicks but why choose to say and do nothing and let it go on and on?

Go and Put some crap of your own next to the skip. Cheeky Fuckers! that will annoy them!

YANBU, by the way

by the way, if you don’t wanna share that’s fine but what did the other neighbours do?

What have you said to them about it?

Oh I missed the 'said nothing'.

Yes I agree it's frustrating when hardly anyone here seems to want a normal adult conversation with neighbours who bother them.

you don’t know op’s circumstances. she could have anxiety for all we know. I myself have anxiety, and hate any form of confrontation so will avoid it at any cost!

Just ask them not to leave stuff by the skip ffs

I said YABU as you have said nothing....I would have gone round there the minute they started banging around at 7am on a sunday

Well you can have anxiety about talking to your neighbours or you can have anxiety about being woken up at 7am and not being able to get out of your drive.

Sort of thing I’d be inclined to think it won’t last for ever so look past it.

is the skip in the rd?if it’s not blocking your drive their within their rights.

also why don’t you reverse into your drive? Much easier to drive out.

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You need to tell them it's not ok. 7am, go round and ask them to stop until 10am on weekends and 9am weekdays. The same for the skip, tell them to remove the items as you can't use the drive.

I used to be a very bone confrontational person until I met my dh, he's great at not letting people take the piss, he's fair but firm.

I agree with a pp, they aren't taking the piss if they don't know it's a problem. Don't say anything and they'll think it's ok. They are taking the piss of you tell them and they carry on

Well then this is the cost.

I don't think you can complain about someone doing something you haven't asked them not to do.

I have anxiety. I'm on medication and have had years of counselling for it. I accepted long ago that it is my problem and affects the way I live my life as much as I let it. It's a choice whether you learn to deal with it and learn to confront things despite feeling overwhelmed vs doing nothing and still feeling overwhelmed at the situation.

TALK TO THEM!!!

There's no point whingeing on here if you're seething silently.

Stop infantilising people. You think you’re being helpful, you are not.

Our attached CF neighbours are exactly the same. They’ve been ‘renovating’ for 8 years and it still looks the bloody same! Drilling, sawing, hammering day and night until we started complaining whenever it was at ridiculous times.

He ignored our complaints so we put it all in a letter and threatened further action. He’s still a CF but he’s quieter! 😉

That’s why I’ve not said anything because I’m like it can’t go on forever and I’d be worried about crating bad blood with people I live next to.

Should have explained better, the skip is on the road (they don’t have a driveway I do) and so that’s why it’s difficult to get out because of parked cars on the street (it’s an old street so not many have drives) and the skip - which I could just about do before but not they are placing things in front of it it’s much more difficult.

Not being able to get on and off your drive is a pain but is your ‘way in’ to this conversation. Just go round and say it stops you getting on the drive then ‘and while I’m here I must mention that the noise starts too early. Please start at a later time. Thanks’, big smile. On you go

Before you say to them about things in front of the skip ....it might not be theirs . People round our way are utter blighters for dumping in SomeOne Elses Skip .

Doesn't make it easier and it's still a rubbish nuisance

Ok then don't complain if you can't do anything. What do you want to hear?

Our neighbours put a skip on their drive but we have full right of way across their drive to access our corner plot. arrogant neighbour declared I had plenty of space to get round it… I have a large 7 seater and the angle meant I had 2cm max each side between the skip one side and a post the other. They then balanced different configurations of wood sticking out of the skip just to increase my daily parking challenge. If they’d been apologetic I’d have been okay but the arrogance to imply it was an issue with my parking ability irritated me so I parked on the road outside their house - apparently that’s their space… it’s a public road idiots. I was super smiley and polite and breezily said “oh yes parking is a tricky one isn’t it but it’ll be lovely for you when your extension is finished…” totally missing the point that they clearly wanted my car moved.

The skip wouldn't bother me, it'll only be there until the work is finished.

And I don't think you can do much about renovation noise during the daytime.

But starting work at 7am and stuff piled around the skip - worth mentioning.

You really do need to say something, OP. They're not likely to just stop. Are you worried about making things worse? That sometimes comes up on threads like this.

You know I didn’t say that right?