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This is the text my husband sent me which are his reasons why he gets mad. Do you think it sounds like someone who is trying to turn everything round onto me? In my eyes he overreacts and raises his voice at the slightest thing.

Impossible to really know for sure without context.. but... there's no respect there. Honestly, when the respect is gone, I don't think much will hold the relationship together.

It depends, do you do any of those things he has listed? From what you have said about him sounds like it's both ways. Maybe this relationship isn't worth continuing with as it doesn't sound happy?

He sounds emotionally abusive and the relationship should be over

He sounds controlling and trying to isolate you from your network. Calling your friends a poisonous group highlights he is threatened by the fact you may share how he behaves. He seems defensive and comes across as a thundertwat.

That sounds like a dead relationship to me. Why would you bother continuing it?

How can we know? Do you spend time berating him to your family and friends? Did you go off all day and not let him know either where you’d gone or when you might be back? Assuming you live together it’s courteous to tell your spouse info like that in my opinion.

I wouldn't like DH going out all day without telling me where he's going

Well do you do those things??

How are we supposed to know? We don’t know you? Maybe he’s just being honest?

No way of us knowing. It could be an accurate description of you, or he could be totally of base.

Obviously I can't know both sides but, taking what he says at face value, and considering you have copied his message to a site like MN, he may have a point.

I can’t believe the posters saying it depends on the context. It is never acceptable to use this language and aggressive tone towards your partner!!

I'm astonished by a couple of the replies on here! I think it's a horrible text with a nasty, sarcastic and paranoid tone! It's a way of talking I associate with physical and emotional abuse. I'd be getting out of there OP.

Off topic, but I like to think the reference to poisoness groups is to MN 😄

New user name for you OP. Oh, and ditch the weirdo.

You are either really hard work and a nightmare to live around or he's twisting everything to make himself look like the victim.
Either way it doesn't look like a happy relationship, maybe you should have a think if you want to be together. It's not normal to send messages like that in a healthy relationship.

The guy is trying to explain why he’s upset. It doesn’t matter if he can’t write as eloquently as some on here would like.

that is how he feels. You should definitely pay attention to it.

I suspect there is fault on both sides

It just doesn't sound like it likes you, or your personality or friends/ family.

I'm don't think I would bother trying to unpick all that and find out 'why' if it were my relationship.

Do you want to stay with him? It sounds as if neither of you is happy. Perhaps you'll each be better off without the other.

That's one snapshot if a whole conversation, what came before that? It sound like you are in the middle of a row. It might be as you say but it's hard to keep ow without seeing more of the interaction. Are you happy in this relationship op? What do you want to change?