holding and kissing baby without asking

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currently on holiday with DH, DC and my DH’s family. We just got her and will stay together in the same hotel for the next 7 days. A bunch of activities have been book for our DC.

SIL came over from abroad with her DC and DH so it’s a major family event. We are not friends but we’ve got a polite relationship when she’s around. My DH is not very close to his family anyway and we live 5 hours drive from his parents and other siblings.

I had a baby 3 months ago and of course baby is here with us. Sleeping or on the breast most of the time but whenever our baby is “available” ie in the pram my SIL gets him and starts kissing his cheeks and blowing raspberries on his face. I’m not sure if I’m being over protective but it bothers me her mouth all over my baby’s face. No, I don’t want her germs to strength his immunity. No, I’m not a germophobic either I just think this is plain gross and in inappropriate to kiss someone else’s baby all over. I would never do this to her children if they were babies and my husband certainly would never either.

so I just need to few tips on how to make her stop without causing a scene. My MIL of course will side with her and she’s a very rude woman who wouldn’t think twice before humiliating anyone in front of everybody else. I saw her making my BIL’s wife crying once so I need to deal with them without causing a massive drama.

any advice very welcome! Also ready to be told IABU and she can do whatever she wants.

Because there’s an important celebration going on and that was planned even before I got pregnant. I would have stayed at home if I could 🤒

Well that would be hard anyway since she lives in another continent. I just met her three times in 10 years.

Baby sling. And also: "Ah I think baby needs a little bit of space right now." Move pram

I wouldn't put up with anyone kissing my DC. Nor would I kiss or gnaw on anyone else's child.

You didn’t answer how your Dh feels? Have you talked to him? Will he be happy with you stopping his family from kissing baby?

I would never just pick up my baby niece or nephew, I’d only hold them if they were offered to me or I was asked to. I would expect this same consideration from our sibling too.

a baby isn’t a toy or something to be passed around.

Say he's tired or doesn't like people in his face or seems to have a cold. I wouldn't like it.

Can anyone explain why they don't like their family to pick up the baby without asking or to kiss them?!

Baby sling or chest carrier always!! I've started using one for big family days.
If you don't know your SIL all that well hopefully she won't come up to your chest to blow raspberry's

Just politely ask her not to do it. What's the big deal? If you never say anything how is she supposed to know you don't like it?
Maybe Google "How to be assertive".