To be pissed off at DP looking at women

[tetris76]

We were out in town today, it's a sunny day, beautiful women walking around, mostly in sun dresses / short shorts etc.

Dp obviously looks at women, it is what it is, but when he is with me is it too much to ask that he doesn't?

I am quite chilled out about this stuff i don't really give him crap about it, but I think there is now a lack of respect due to my approach.

I saw him looking at least 5/6 times and the final one that done it for me was when i was talking to him and before his eyes met mine they got distracted by a woman walking past.

It just felt so disrespectful, also we are with our kids, it's a horrible way to act in front of them, well or in general!

AIBU to be pissed off when I am usually not fussed, (as long as it's not feeling like a piss take)

It's rude. I don't usually mind either, but making it so obvious and also not paying you and the kids proper attention is not on. He's not a horny 18 year old!

I’d hate that too op

If you're noticing it, they are too. It's creepy. A sweeping glance is natural but it shouldn't be noticeable.

YANBU. Fucking hurtful and disrespectful. I’m not even going to say that I don’t mind - I do. It’s grim.

I saw him looking at least 5/6 times and the final one that done it for me was when i was talking to him and before his eyes met mine they got distracted by a woman walking past.

This isn’t normal. You mean he’s just being a perv, openly staring at women as they walk past? It’s not great behaviour when he’s with you but it wouldn’t be great if he were on his own either. Creepy.

They do it but doing it so obvious that you have noticed, that's ridiculous. A bit creepy tbh, a grown man should be able to control himself that he's not losing his line of sight with you when someone walks past

It's rude and disrespectful. Acting like such a letch in front of your kids is horrible all round!

The most telling part of your post is the use of the word ‘obviously’. As in ‘DH obviously looks at women’. You’ve been tricked into believing this is normal and unavoidable behaviour from a man. My DH doesn’t look at women everywhere he goes, any man who does is a fucking disrespectful and disgusting creep who think absolutely nothing of his poor wife. In fact he’s probably congratulating himself on booking someone with such low self esteem that she think this behaviour is part of a man’s natural state.

This would fill me with rage! YANBU. It’s disrespectful and leering pervy behaviour. A bloke out with his kids having a perv! Lovely. Horrible for you and horrible for the women he is leering at. I’d confront him and explain although if he thinks this is already acceptable I don’t know what you could say to ‘make him see’!! Maybe next time he does it, go up to the woman and say ‘I’m so sorry for my DH I hope you don’t feel too offended’ right infront of him. He should be embarrassed! Xx

My ex hubbie used to do this and his 'excuse' was that women love to be looked at. I pointed out that mainly we like to be looked at by only our own men but he was adamant all women needed appraising. No idea why we divorced....

Grim. I would point it out every single time.

Creepy and disrespectful.

I don't think we should be brainwashed into thinking it is normal for a man to do that. He is in your company and should be focused on you, not leering at every woman walking past.

I also personally don't want to be stared out when I am out and about by men in general. It is worse if that man is out with his kids and partner.

There is nothing normal about this, op. He's a blatant pig and a horrible example for your kids. Get rid of him.

I just made a post about the same thing! Find that awful and would make me feel horrible in myself

Most men I know don’t do this, they might have a glance now & then but not a gawp. It’s sleazy & disrespectful.

My ex was awful with this. Literally may as well have had his tongue out🤣he would stare so much, it was embarrassing & the poor girls he was staring at must’ve noticed!