I am on maternity leave at the moment as have a baby and toddler but usually work.
We have some stuff around the house that needs clearing. We are comfortable money wise and I know my limitations so suggested hiring a removal man just to get it done. He says 'I'm not paying for that it's lazy when I can do it myself and a waste of money'. I suggested paying myself but the answer was still no.
This may sound silly put there is a picture that has been off the walls for months from when it fell down. I asked maybe 3 weeks ago if he could maybe re hang it at some point but it didn't get done, fine, so I left it. I would do it myself but it's v heavy and I'm not tall enough. So I asked again recently when he thinks he might be able to re hang it as its been on the floor for a while and he went off on one saying 'I do enough around here, why can't you just do it yourself or learn how to do it'. I said why I'd find it hard andsaid DIY is usually his forte and he said 'well cleaning should be yours and it's not'. I have a baby and 2 year old so do my best cleaning wise but it isn't always the easiest. I suggested getting a cleaner to help and would pay for it and he was reluctant and said no as doesn't like paying for things like that. I'm trying to find solutions.
Anyway last night he listed off a load of things saying 'I work, do all the DIY, organise the bills, cook dinners, I'm sick of it'. But he takes control of bills and won't pay for any help around the house when struggling. I do all the shopping for the kids, get up with them in the night, cook and clean while he is at work and contribute 50/50 money wise. I just feel the things he listed and used against me are unfair and are just life? It made me feel really inadequate and like I don't pull my weight. I can't help that I'm not physically working right now and he is but I am getting maternity pay that helps towards the home. AIBU?