Advice please

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I have name changed for this. So about 4 weeks ago because I was tired I said no to sex when dh asked. Later that day he was off with me. Hasn’t spoken to me properly since. Totally unemotional. Not laughing or joking with me and very straight talking without any emotion in his voice. Previously he has done the whole silent treatment thing which has sometimes gone on for a week or nearly two. This time I think I have had enough and I am not going to even ask why he’s behaving like this. Does anyone else’s oh withhold emotion like this as some form of showing how they are suddenly not emotionally going to interact with you but fine with everyone else.

No, you should leave.

That is not normal the fact he doesn't even respect your decision to not want to have sex. That's a massive red flag for me and I wouldn't stay in that relationship.

Why do so many people on this bizarre site jump to “you should leave” as soon as something poor happens from a DH or OH?

he is acting unreasonably. No question.

Thank you. I just feel like I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of asking why he’s not talking properly

This is emotional abuse.

I don't know, I'd be tempted to be upfront about it.....ask...."are you giving me the silent treatment because I wasn't in the mood for sex??" And see what answer he comes out with

Giving someone the silent treatment is legally considered to be a form of abuse.

Punishing you for saying no to sex is also a form of abuse.

Someone giving you the silent treatment for four weeks because you once said no to sex is pretty horrendous behaviour to be honest. I would ask is he normally this controlling but honestly its irrelevant, why stay with someone who thinks it reasonable to punish you for turning down sex?

You know the silent treatment is a form of control don't you? My husband did this all through my married life and for the sake of harmony I always apologised and gave in to his demands.
One day I said 'No' for the last time. I had warned him repeatedly that this would happen. He made my life a misery, not just with sex, but with anything I did independently of him.
Get rid.

Because more often than not by the time things get bad enough for someone to post on this site its bad enough that the relationship is unsustainable

I have also seen many threads where the OP is told that they are over reacting etc. But yes there are a lot of LTB threads on here because this is where a lot of women come to discuss really bad relationships, its a kind of self fulfilling thing.

This is not normal or acceptable behaviour. It is a farm of control. If you let it go, next time he asks for sex you will be more likely to agree because he has conditioned you to do as he wants or he will ‘punish’ you with this behaviour.
I won’t say LTB, but I would suggest you think about why you would want to spend time with someone who behaves like this. ( and then LTB)

Narc behaviour