Are most teenagers horrible to their parents ?

[Needwine999]

I feel i cant cope, my daughter is just not pleasant to me most of the time, mainly saying she hates me, everything i do just seems to annoy her, wont eat food i cook just order mc donalds all the time (has a job), just everything i seem to do, or not do, say ,not say, even breathe winds her up. She is 18 and i am hoping this is a phase that passes , other teen parents can you advise?

On the other hand she can be great, can say really kind things and works hard in her job she has, its like 2 different people sometimes, my older child was never like this, i try not to get upset and just brush it off and not take it to heart, this is what teenagers do right?

Sounds like it's time she stood on her own 2 feet. She's an adult now, if she hates you so much she knows where the door is 👍
I was like this at 14, by 18 I'd moved out and my relationship with my mum vastly improved as I respected her more.

simply, yes!
But usually it is a phase, so just need to grit your teeth and vent here!

When she is in a reasonably good mood, have a talk with her.
Perhaps be a bit firmer with her and tell her she simply may not speak to you that way anymore. Tell her you are a human being and her words really affect you.

i think I was horrible to my mum as a teenager, probably until I was early 20s. We’re the absolute best of friends now that I’m mid 30s and have been for a long time. Hang in there. I personally wouldn’t be pushing her away at this point because I think if my mum had done that to me we wouldn’t be so close now.

For your own mental health I think you need to disassociate yourself with them at this stage. It also helps with empty nest syndrome later down the line.
If they’re being horrible, take yourself away. If they’re having a good day, enjoy their company.