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To think it's okay to share...?

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jabbajabba1 · 04/08/2022 19:48

I went to my friend's house, and she has separate toiletries (body wash, shampoo, spf, moisturisers etc.) to the rest of her family.

At home we tend to share most basic things.. but then I have my own separate eye creams/serums etc.

But she was saying most people my age shouldn't share anything...

I'm interested what does everyone else share/not share when it comes to toiletries?

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BigFatLiar · 04/08/2022 20:18

When the girls were here they'd use my stuff but complain if I used any of theirs.

Not really an issue with DH he doesn't use much, intend not to use his soap as its either basic white soap or coal tar soap.

MajorCarolDanvers · 04/08/2022 20:20

It's fine to share

It's also fine not to

MrsMoastyToasty · 04/08/2022 20:21

I don't share hair products (and anyway DH shaves his remaining hair). The whole family share shower gel and toothpaste.

I don't normally share deodorant sprays but had run out. I now smell of teenage DS Lynx Africa.

ChimChimeny · 04/08/2022 20:22

Mix here too, we all have our own shampoo (very different needs) bit same conditioner, share shower gel & face wash but different toothpaste (again different needs).

nonevernotever · 04/08/2022 20:25

I would share with family, though their hair is different so I have my own shampoo. I wouldn't want to share with others without them asking. Eg friend was complaining to me today that flatmate's new boyfriend is helping himself to her stuff including toothpaste, face cream and moisturiser. As admitted quite cheerfully by flatmate who stated that her CF bf "uses yours because you buy more expensive stuff than me". (Tbf that's not the only thing that would annoy me about him but that's for a thread of its own)

MumUndone · 04/08/2022 20:25

Yes to sharing soap, toothpaste, shampoo (unless it's the expense kind) but no to sharing serum, moisturiser etc.

WhoKnowsProbsNotMe · 04/08/2022 20:26

We have our own (except toothpaste) however I’m sure I’m not alone in having a DP that just helps himself anyway - even if he’s not sure what it is (not too long ago I found my moisturiser in the shower which I had left at the sink next to the shower and when I asked him about it he had no idea what I was talking about and asked if I meant the “body wash”….) so anything good I keep in my toiletries bag because that’s too much effort for him to look in, other than that I don’t care enough to mention it 😂 xx

Penguinfeather781 · 04/08/2022 20:29

I hate sharing toothpaste (it just seems icky given it’s swiped by the toothbrush) and the kids use kids ones anyway so we all end up with one each. I’m funny about other people putting their fingers in my pot of Vaseline, moisturiser etc so prefer to keep those separate and I have my own separate bar soap. I happily share shower gel, shampoo etc with DH (again the kids like kids products) and we all use the same sunscreen.

Basically if it’s generic and can be dispensed without “contamination” I’m happy to share.

Hawkins001 · 04/08/2022 20:29

I'm flexible, with communal shower gels, shampoos etc, if it's been a special gift e.g. Christmas then I prefer solo usage.

RewildingAmbridge · 04/08/2022 20:34

We don't share, DH uses half a gallon of shower gel a day so I'm not letting him get his hands on my expensive shower oil. I have thick curly hair DH doesn't so we have shampoo and conditioner that suits our hair type. I have very pale skin so use high factor SPF, DH tans beautifully so uses factor 20. I have dry skin DH oily so we wouldn't use the same face cream.
DS is only 3 so tends to have child's farm/Burt's bees etc.
Surely most people have different hair/skin needs. I get it if it's a budgeting thing and you're all just using generic products

WhatIsThisPlease · 04/08/2022 20:38

I don't share anything with DP except for the hand soap unless I've got some posh stuff from The White Company in which case it's all mine

felulageller · 04/08/2022 20:41

We all have different things, I assumed that was normal.

We have different hair types so need very different shampoos conditioners.

DP has man smelly washes I have my own.

I like particular brands of things like toothpaste. No use having some family members unnecessarily using expensive brands when they don't need/ want it!

We even have different handwashes!

Rosebel · 04/08/2022 20:43

I share shampoo with eldest DD and DH. Youngest DD has her own stuff as she has very sensitive skin and DS uses kids products still.
I tend to share shower gel with eldest DS too. We all have our own deodorants and moisturiser.

Rosebel · 04/08/2022 20:44

Eldest DD not DS.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 04/08/2022 20:44

Shower gel, shampoo, toothpaste you get what I buy. If you want any different you get your own. Deodorant you are welcome to mine but usually everyone buys their own. Skin care products we each get our own, due to age, different needs and so on.

Howlongwillthistake · 04/08/2022 20:46

If anyone touches my shampoo or conditioner they're DEAD !!! 😆

Crumpleton · 04/08/2022 20:46

The only toiletries DH and I share is toothpaste, a hand-wash I shove in the downstairs loo...and at a push I'll borrow a squirt of shaving foam if I've ran out.
Must confess I don't even use the same laundry products
and wash my clothes separately to his as he doesn't like his clothes smelling to floral.

BobMortimersPocketMeat · 04/08/2022 20:47

It’s just me and DH here; he has almost no hair, and I have a lot of long curly thatch, so we have separate needs in the hair are department. Likewise our own shower gel, deodorant, etc. I have sensitive teeth so we even have separate toothpaste. It’s just whatever you need or like. If we were able to use the same product and liked the same scent, then we’d obviously share. I don’t see why it’s a big deal either way.

AugmentedToast · 04/08/2022 20:47

Share. We only use pretty standard stuff, and I tend to use men’s toiletries because I refuse to pay the pink tax.

cheninblanc · 04/08/2022 20:49

I share body wash but not shampoo with my husband. My dds and sd have their own. My girls buy their own so won't share with sd as they buy fancy stuff

toooldtocarewhoknows · 04/08/2022 20:50

It annoys me when others help themselves to my toiletries. I like an expensive brand that I often get as a gift. I am super frugal with my usage but my children, especially the boys, like to use my hair products.

I now fill old hand wash pump dispensers and peel the label off. Since I did this it's lasted a whole year. Before I was replacing my expensive products every other month!

Original poster
jabbajabba1 · 04/08/2022 20:51

WhatIsThisPlease · 04/08/2022 20:38

I don't share anything with DP except for the hand soap unless I've got some posh stuff from The White Company in which case it's all mine

😂

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Louise0701 · 04/08/2022 20:51

We all have our own. DD keeps her own toiletries in her en suite and uses different shampoo and conditioner to me as we have totally different hair types. She also prefers fruity shower gels and I always use coconut. DH uses his own.

Our boys share as they share a bathroom so I just buy Childs farm for their bathroom as it suits both their skin.
SPF; the children all use 50 and DH and I use different so again; we have our own.
I have my own skincare products that nobody else uses and DD is only 8 so doesn’t use any yet.

Louise0701 · 04/08/2022 20:53

I forgot toothpaste. DH and I share toothpaste, DD has her own in her bathroom and the boys share the childrens one in their bathroom.

daisyjgrey · 04/08/2022 20:55

We share everything except my specific skincare and my olaplex.

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