Over this present

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Partner saw a video of some shop in a country we are going to soon they have a shop in the uk too. so he’s gone an got me a voucher for the shop in the currency of the country we are going to. It means we now have to traipse to this shop on our weekend away and nothing I can see on there website I like. We leave in 2 weeks so I will have to get something while out there. Everything is also double the cost than the voucher so I will have to dip into my own pocket to pay for the rest. I also really don’t see anything I love there nice clothes but not amazing and the money could of got me some other bits I really want. I’ve acted happy and will have to buy something as he can’t return it and I don’t want to make him feel bad for what he got me .

Ahh it seems like he tried to be thoughtful, but unfortunately it wasn’t quite right. I think YAB a bit U, hopefully they will have a sale or something in store so you can get something nice without having to add to it.

Just get something you will use/wear it doesn't have to be amazinf

Yes it’s just all very over my budget like 150 minimum over and it’s a lot of my holiday budget to spend on something I’m not 100% on. I’m going to see what I can get with the voucher in full I’ve seen a belt in the sale I can just about afford with the voucher or a tote bag

@Ontomatopea i can do that but it means dipping into money for other things to afford an item

Just go there and say you can't afford anything with the voucher - and if he doesn't offer to top up then don't get anything. No point spending your own money on something you don't really want.

Yup sounds good to me

Ah that is a shame OP.

Sounds like he meant well but I can see why this would be frustrating. I'm guessing he's oblivious to the fact it's all just a bit of a hassle.

If you link to the shop and tell us how much your voucher is we could have a look.

Get yourself something small from the shop with the voucher: hair bands, tights etc. It does seem like an odd present, why did he buy the vouchers? If his intentions were good I’d just make the best of it and concentrate on the fact he buys you random presents to make you happy (and maybe set up some hints in the future).

I once got a ‘good will’ voucher from a fancy shop. It wasn’t enough to buy anything apart from tights so I got some Flake tights and they are AMAZING. It’s not something I’d ever buy otherwise but it’s a similar situation to yours and it ended happily!

Thank you all for the comments it’s a really small shop so only limited dresses and two belts a scarf and some other mini tote bags. I guess I’m also annoyed as for his birthday I spent double on the gift/ experience got him some item of clothing he wanted took him for dinner made him a cake and got him a card. He’s not got a card yet will be buying it and giving it to me on the evening of my birthday so he has time to buy one. I’ve mentioned for two years how much I would love a birthday cake as I always bake for everyone else in my family and myself or I never get one. I make so much effort for him and he’s just seen a advert video and thought she will like that and not really thought about me. I’ve also looked at wear the shop is and it’s far away from where we are so I will have to cancel one of our afternoon plans on holiday to make it to this shop

Choose something and prompt him to make up the difference.

Could you go to the UK shop and ask if they will honour the voucher there for you?

I think that this gift is done now.

I do think you should have a gentle but clear conversation with him about your expectations for birthdays and similar events. It sounds like you're disappointed and not unreasonably so. If it's a new-ish relationship (less than 2 years) then you're still in the "setting expectations" stage for stuff like this. If you've already had that conversation though then I think you need to decide whether this is something you're prepared to tolerate long term.