To ask what you think here?

[TinaTeaspoons]

A couple of years back, my friend had a nasty break up with her husband of 13 years. He had cheated on her and she was absolutely devastated and turned to drink and drugs. After a few months of crying and blowing my phone up with depressed texts on a daily basis, she met another man and it became very intense and I openly said I was concerned at the speed it was all moving as friend has 2 young kids who were 7 at the time. She dismissed my concerns and distanced herself from me as I was the only one stating my concerns for the kids. Not in a judgemental way, just in a concerned way.
I met a mutual friend by chance earlier today and she told me that friend and the guy were still together and happier than ever. That they were not living together due to job circumstances but don't I feel a bit embarassed for doubting their relationship and it now being 3 years since they first met, how loved up they are etc?
Aibu to say this was wrong of her and that I did nothing a caring friend would not do?

I learned many years ago never to give my opinion if it hasn't been asked for - and only to be positive, supportive and kind.

I can see why you said what you did, but she clearly felt judged.

Yanbu at all. You sounded like you were very concerned especially as she turned to you alot. The mutual friend sounds out of order for making that comment though.

I was having my phone blowed up by her for weeks saying how depressed and upset she was. Then this guy comes along and suddenly, it's all fine again. Of course I was going to have concerns. I don't feel embarrassed or silly at all. Would have been very odd if I thought it was a wonderful idea.

Who has said you should feel silly or embarrassed?

The mutual friend I saw today even though I don't really see her all that much anymore. She just said I must feel embarrassed and silly because they are the most happiest couple you could ever meet. I'm very surprised it has lasted but then they don't live together so maybe not all that surprising.
All I wanted to do was stop friend from getting hurt but seems I shouldn't have wasted my time. Good for them if they are happy but I don't think many rebound relationships work out for the best which was my concern. One week drinking heavily and on drugs, the next, very happy and blissfully in love. Would be mad for me not to be worried but I guess the loyalty was misplaced on my side.

When my best friend told me that she was marrying her alcoholic boyfriend, I wanted nothing more than to argue that she shouldn't and tell her all the reasons why. I asked 'are you sure' she said 'yes' after which I said not another word.

Nor did I say anything when we went out for a drink a couple of years later, went back to their home to find her husband with his head in the gas oven (a popular method of committing suicide in those days. Nor when we sat all night in the hospital until told he would live. Nor when five years later she divorced him. I was there for her as she was there for me in my bad times.

Our frienship is 59 years old this year. No-one wants to be I told you so, especially from a good friend.