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[Another2022]

I know this isn’t important and it’s not really an issue but I wanted to see what people think about it.

I split from my ex last October and got a new house in April. The kids spend nearly half the time here (I’d like it to be half the time but that’s a whole different story…) and we’ve all settled in now.

My ex insists on calling my home ‘Dad’s house’ and her home ‘home’. She corrects the kids and even me in front of them when I refer the the houses by the street name.

I let it slide (I never ever correct the kids!!) because the kids are happy and I know it’s not worth arguing over but AIBU to be a bit annoyed? Feels like she’s teaching them they only have one proper home!

As someone who grew up with a mother as petty as your ex trust me when I say your kids will wise up to her sly digs and comments when they get older.

The thing I remember the most is no matter what my mother would say about my father he's never ever once retaliated and said anything bad about her and I respect him so much for that.

They know they have a home with you and one with her, don't waste time worrying about what it's called, make sure it's their happy place where they'll remember that you had fun with them and there was plenty of love and laughter.

Does she still live in the family home? How old are your children?

At this point, if they are still living in the family home, that is their home, it's the only home they've ever known and unfortunately your home is 'dads house'. It's home when they visit but you've only lived there 4 months, they probably don't feel like it's their home and maybe never will.

Ultimately you should focus on your childrens happiness, making them feel safe & loved, not on who calls which house what. This is really not something worth fighting over.

I had 'dads house' and 'home' where I spent most of my time, most of my things were there, all my friends were local to 'home'. It's made no difference or affected the relationship I had with my father.