To politely but firmly stand up for myself tomorrow?

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I've just finished a course of chemo for cancer. It's made me feel like utter shit. Ive finally finished all treatment now and it's looking like it's worked. Im 31.

I had a phone call on Friday from my gp, informing me bluntly that I now have type 2 diabetes caused 'entirely by your weight' I asked if it could have been made worse by my treatment and got 'what treatment (keyboard clicks) oh no chemo usually makes you lose weight not put it on, shame you didn't'. I was 25stone (158kg) in march and I now weigh 18 stone 6 (115kg) wtf? I've recently put on 3/4 pounds not sure why. He stood me my risk of cancer is now very high because I'm t2 diabetic and that I've brought this on myself.

Ive got an appointment tomorrow face to face because 'someone should our eyes on you and see how big you've got' I cannot believe it. I've lost a ridiculous amount of weight, I feel like absolute shit because of the chemo and I've got this moron wasting a face to face appointment to give me a lecture on how I'm 'eating to death'

I had an ng tube until Wednesday last week.

I'm glad my bloods picked up something because it can be treated but when I was an emotional eater that would have put me over the edge for definite! Absolutely no recognition of the hard work healthy eating wise I've done and sickness I've dealt with for months!

I asked him whether my thyroid medication could have contributed to anything, and he actually said no but I think I might need to speak to endocrine and see if we can tweak the dose to get some more weight off (I've got Graves' disease so im hyper and the meds bring it down so can cause a bit of weight gain)

So aibu to go to the stupid face to face appointment and tell him his phone manner is disgusting, and he needs to do some reading of my notes and that in future when telling people they're t2 diabetic maybe don't make people feel like a disgusting fat slug. I'm so angry. I keep thinking about it and getting cold shivers.

I had a binge eating disorder for years before I went to therapy and dealt with the grief driving it but this came so close to causing my first binge for years.

He can fuck off, im not even going to wear my wig im going to go in fat and bald and ask about my cancer risk

I would change doctor. He sounds like an utterly insensitive twat tbh.

I would suggest you ask him if he requires some constructive feedback regarding his counselling skills for his annual appraisal. Used to be call "PUNS and DENS"-Patient unmet needs & Doctors educational needs.
Sounds like he is burnt out &in need of some communication training.
(Retired health professional)

I would be speaking to the practice manager
A doctor recently told my dad (70s, typical older man who doesn't talk about feelings) to "man up and think about what his wife would think of him". My dad had just opened up about how stressed and depressed he was. Now he's refusing to go back to the doctors at all

Oh my goodness. What a prat. Please complain.

@PeloAddict that's awful

Take someone with you to your appointment for moral support and to act as your proxy if needs be.Also ask to speak to the practice manager.

I have T2 diabetes;I discovered this after re-occurring thrush and a decent female GP sending me for blood tests to see if there was an underlying issue.

Unfortunately prior to this I had issues with 2 dickhead male GP's who made me feel like shite.One without examining me or taking a swab told me I had bacterial vaginitis and gave me antibiotics;antibiotics are a well known trigger for thrush.Then there was dickhead number two who told me I'd probably given myself thrush because I'm fat and my thighs rub together and then in the same conversation told me I needed to get tested for STD's as I could have one to which I replied I'd been with my DH since 16 (I'm nearly 40) and he told my DH could have cheated on me.I walked out in tears and my DH wanted to go back into the surgery and have it out with the practice manager.