To wonder how a friendship really becomes something more?

[yougotafriendinme]

I'm in this situation. We like each other, we already had a solid friendship, we decided to date. Both in our 40s.

We're like a couple of nervous teenagers now though, dating for the first time. Every time we see each other, we're both nervous to make the first move!

If we say anything nice to one another, it's kind of mumbled in an embarrassed way, like the other might think we're silly.

It's quite endearing but I can't work out if this is normal in this situation! I wouldn't be like this with some random man I met on a dating app.

We've only moved from friends to more, in the last 4 weeks or so, so hopefully not indicative of an issue. I actually really like this dynamic for now but I can't help but wonder if I'll ever just be able to say 'hey gorgeous' ...and snog his face off when I get to his house!

Would love to hear how this develops from people who have been through it.

I should add, we have been physical (and we are most times we see each other now), but if you picture a couple of 13 year olds on a cinema date, both wanting to hold hands but scared to....that's our dynamic!

Have you got pissed together at all? Not wankered, but merry in a fun lively place?

DH and I were friends before we were together albeit we were actually teenagers. But ultimately the advice is still the same…. Dig deep and go for it! What’s the movie that talks about half 20 seconds of “insane courage”? Thats what you need. It’ll never not be awkward until you get over the hump.

We have, and this is usually the way we calm the nerves and get to the good stuff!

But I'm just wondering when the need to do that dissipates and we just feel comfortable reaching for each other's hand etc.

How long were you friends? It sounds pretty cute and endearing at the moment, could be odd if you don't eventually get into the comfort zone. Early days though, just give it a bit of time.

<acting like I have a clue >