To think he could make more effort

[aghhh]

Since DH & I had our 3rd DC (11 months ago) we have never done something for ourselves.

It's only been about the DC. No date nights/ date afternoons etc

PIL have offered on several occasions to babysit for us to go out for a drink or dinner etc he always answers no without even asking me.

My parents have offered to have all 3 DC over this weekend. So we can do what we like. I said yes I'll just check with DH & now he's saying he can't as he's got to work extra hours at the weekend (finishing a project) - should add he works from home.

I'm over it at this point and think he should make some sort of an effort.
AIBU to never want to do anything nice with him again? I'll send DC to my parents for a night and go on a girls night out. I haven't been for years.
He is so lovely and a great husband however I feel like our romantic relationship has completely died. Now that I've stopped trying.. z

YANBU to feel this way but you need to talk to him.

Have you asked him why he keeps saying no without discussing it? Have you told him you want to go out together?

I have

Last night I made a comment about how lovely it would be to have a child free weekend & do something nice. He always replies with " oh yes that'd be great can't wait" then something like work aways pops up.

If I was to ask the direct question about "what is the real reason" why he keeps cancelling I know I wouldn't get a direct answer.

I just don't know what I have done. It makes me feel so unworthy and unwanted. Almost as if he'd be wasting his time having a few hours with just me.

The last paragraph is what you need to say to him!