To ask what’s the worst thing you ever did as a kid?

[Onethirtytwo]

Trying to give myself some perspective that my child will not grow up to be some kind of mass murderer.
Or if you have kids who have turned out to be decent people, what’s the worst thing they did as kids?
Is there hope for mine?
I have a 9yo autistic child who assaulted someone at brownies a few weeks ago, apparently kicking them when they were on the floor, game gone wrong.
She has today had another girl in a chokehold at a different club.
This has been reported to the police and I’m naturally worried as to where this has come from and if it will escalate, and how to stop that.
She watches no violent TV, she doesn’t play violent games, we don’t have electronics upstairs so we’ll monitored, but I’m so worried about this escalating and very much want to put a stop to it now.
She is kind natured generally and is not violent at home. Although she can be difficult verbally and petty with her siblings, and I’m just so worried.
Any advice?

In my experience discipline of autistic children tends to work better if it's instant but obviously you didn't know at the time . At her age probably the taking away of something significant like ipad? For a day or two depending on how much you think it will impact.

@EmeraldShamrock1 do you mind telling me quickly what worked for your DS with improving emotional regulation? This is something my DS struggles with a lot (suspected ASD) and I'm finding all the advice on how to improve it conflicting!

OP, there is no point asking parents of NT children what they would do in this situation because parenting techniques that work for NT children often don't work on autistic children. I wouldn't think these clubs are in her best interests if she is behaving like this - it sounds like she's become overwhelmed.

I learned a lot from a sensory course it helped me put myself into his position and see things differently.

Also through private occupational therapy

I was heartbroken initially thinking about the times I assumed he was being bold.

What age is your DS? I used a lot of social stories making little books, also played games purposely teaching him how to lose a game.

Charts are great too, alongside pictures of different emotional faces it helps them relate, with a little drawing on how to defuse.

Angry face - jump on trampoline.
Sad face - have a hug.
Happy face - high five etc.

Exercise is key for avoiding meltdowns, a trampoline and nut gym ball really removes stress.

He isn't cleared of his emotional disorder but it helps.

To add lots of praise when he does hold it together.
Some days I feel like a manic cheerleader on drugs. 😂

My son was the same. I tried all the “techniques”, he saw therapist, psychologist, educational psychologist etc etc. none of it really worked. The only thing that has helped is time! letting him grow up and mature. He’s outgrown the behaviours. Still has the occasional melt down.

I seriously wouldn't worry re the police element, the age of criminal responsibility is 10. My police force wouldnt even attend that.

Great ideas 👍