What would you have done?

[tootiredtoocare]

Been thinking about it for a couple of weeks and I'm not sure what I could have done but am worried I could have done something and didn't. I was driving behind a car, man driving, woman in passenger seat, two early teen kids in back. The man caught my attention as he was very animated, and I realised he was angry, gesturing aggressively, and obviously shouting, red faced etc. The woman appeared to be sitting very low in her seat and the kids in the back were sitting motionless, bolt upright and obviously very tense at best. I was very concerned for the woman and children, and would not have been surprised at all if he had become physically violent.
I keep my phone in my bag when I'm in the car, but I'm wondering if I should have tried to get it out to call the police and report potential domestic abuse and give the car registration.
Obviously, there's nothing I can do now, but it's playing on my mind.

So, in the very unlikely event it should happen again, what is the best course of action?

IABU - I should just keep my nose out.

IANBU - it's worth reporting in just in case.

No if you're driving you can't phone. To be honest by the time the police came he would probably play it down anyway.

I completely understand your feelings I've been in a situation before not knowing what to do, it immediately sprung to mums again.

mind again.

You could see all of this while driving behind?

I believe you can use your phone while driving, as long it's it's only to report an emergency.

Honestly I don't think the police would have done anything. It was a few minutes out of the day and (hopefully!) not a good representation of their real life.

I think we've all had arguments and bad days and it doesn't always mean there's abuse going on.

I think your overthinking this , abuse based on what ? They maybe had a row !
even if you were right report what and to who ? You assumed someone violent I don’t see how .

@TabithaTittlemouse we were in queuing traffic, which was moving but very slowly.

@gettingolderandgrumpy His whole demeanour was aggressive, he was leaning towards the passenger seat so I could see his face side on. He caught my attention because he was so physically animated - big gestures etc. When I began to take notice, it became obvious he was shouting and pointing at the face of the woman next to him.

@QuestionableMouse I do hope it was just a bad day for them, and you're right, it probably was, but in those moments I genuinely felt very worried for them all.

Could you really see he was red faced?
I'm not sure what I would have done. Could teens have had headphones in, woman just slouching to get comfy and angry man have been singing and dancing to the radio?

You have no clue what was going on! You’re just using your imagination!

No I wouldn’t call the police because a couple was arguing or a man was shouting at someone 😕