to ask how long you were on OLD before you met your partner?

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I was wondering how long it has taken people to find a past/current partner using a dating app? I was on dating apps for 3 months last year and couldn't meet anyone decent. I grew tired of talking to timewasters and weirdos, I just deleted the apps. Perhaps I gave up too soon.

How long did it take you to meet a partner on dating apps?

On and off about 18 months. I chatted to quite a few but only actually went on dates with 8 people, of them 2 ended up in short relationships ( a few months) and the last one I ended up marrying!

My approach was I had certain things I was quite clear on (eg I wanted someone who already had DC as I knew I didn’t want anymore) but on other things I was quite flexible - I have friends who have been on OLD for years who have quite rigid expectations on things like height, hair colour, job etc.

I was DH’s first ever online date! I think he just wasn’t very picky… 🤣

Around two/three years on and off before I met my wife. Was on Tinder and POF, went on a few unsuccessful dates then had an on off relationship for around a year, went on some more dates during the off periods, on and off thing ended, went on a few more dates over a few months, again nothing serious, then met my ex, was with her for less than a year, broke up in August, went travelling in September, back on OLD in October and met my wife a two weeks later, that was 7 years ago and have been with her since.

I think people give up too easily with OLD, it often requires a lot of perseverance, time wasters and crappy dates before you have success, but it’s worth it.

3 months.Together 9.5 years Married for 6.

oh these replies are interesting. yeah perhaps I gave up on it too soon

About 5mins for my first match.
Then dozens of interims.
Then 18 months till I met DP.

In total 6 weeks, but the first 2 weeks I was talking to one man and started dating him. It didn't work out, I didn't go back on the app because I wasn't sure I was ready to date. Went on one morning to close the account properly and checked out the men who had swiped on me, the 46th out of 50 looked cute so I messaged him. We've been together 6 months and both deleted our accounts within a couple of weeks.

I did a few months in the spring of 2021. I got a bit tired of it tbh; and had a busy summer planned so came off.

Then I did about a month in autumn 2021 and then I met my bf and we came off pretty quickly after that.

A couple of years for me. I was on POF for so long and then joined tinder at some point and it was just weirdos everywhere. I finally decided to join match and that was that. Starting to speaking to my now DH within a few weeks.

About 9 months. The first 3 /4 I wasn't looking for anything serious and had several very nice short term things and lots of perfectly pleasant dates. Met one guy who could have been a thing but I was moving away. Met (now) DP 5 years ago. This was all on Match. Honestly I only had one guy stand me up, one ghost and one guy was very honest and tell me the day before our first date that he'd met with someone the previous day and clicked with them so didn't want to continue, which I thought was fine. I could see from scrolling though there were a lot of twats and duds but maybe I was lucky as I didn't actually feel the experience was negative at all.

On and off for about 4 years. With current partner for just over 1 year. OLD is hell.

Just shows OLD can work for some and it's worth persevering and being patient.

10 days on and off. To the point where I'd given up! I was inundated with A LOT of messages that were just awful for a number of reasons.

Then he popped up.

We talked on the phone for 3 months, my choice. We had each others profile pictures and then the odd picture we would take and send.

We met in person August 21
He proposed October 21
We got married March 22

When you know, you know. Don't stop looking.

yep online dating was also hell for me.can I ask what made it so bad for you?

I was about a year with STBXH. We were together for many years. This time around been on for 3 months, have arranged 4 dates in total and so far none have actually happened 🤦🏻‍♀️

We met on Match and people just didn't believe my DH so he clarified that in his wedding speech.

It is worth it but you have to keep trying.

only 10 days?! wow that was very quick

It was my first time OLD after my divorce in 2015. His message was just a normal message and he'd clearly taken the time to read my profile.

Honestly, he's the best part of my life and he's given me joy and so much love. If I had given up, which I very nearly did, I'd have never met him.

But you have to balance your search with what works for you, OLD is brutal. I also had VERY strong boundaries.

Depends how you look at it...

I was on one niche site that moves very slowly for about 2 months, and on there I had a message from 1 guy that I saw intermittently for a year.

I was on sex dating sites that take about 5 minutes per partner. As many as you like. Oddly there are a few guys on there who are up for relationships too but I wasn't.

I was on Hinge for perhaps 12 weeks, had a few dates, all fine but nothing serious.

Then I went on Ourtime as I was tired of feeling old on Hinge. Liked DPs profile within a week I think, we met within a month and have been together over 18 months now.

A long time and I had to go on many many bad dates until I met DH. I think i was OLD on various sites for about 7 years. I had a few breaks here and there but always ended up back online.