In expectating my partner to come to hospital appointment with me

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I have a chronic illness and have waited 2 years for another hospital consultant appointment. We have only been together 2 years so he’s never had to come with me to one before. This appointment is probably going to be upsetting and not great news as nothing they can do for my pain anymore. He’s said he’s got football in the morning and then seeing friends after I’ve said im happy to get my own way there but being picked up would be nice incase im upset by the news. He’s chosen to go out with his mates instead he only saw them 2 weeks ago. I’ve said how nervous I am for the Appointment and he’s just told me what to say and ask for more to be done. I’ve lived with this for many years and even paid to see 3 top private doctors there isn’t anything really they can do except more surgery Which is probably what I will get told on the appointment day.

He is a selfish prick.

I think it would be nice but have you actually asked him outright to come with you?

I think since you seem to know what they will say and seem to be sure of the outcome then it isn’t necessary for him to come. I’d happily go alone, personally.

He’s now just walked in and said he’s cancelled the boys so he can pick me up I didn’t even have to say anything he then apologised for not thinking of me first

I understand where you're coming from but at the same time, if you know what they're going to say I can see why he might think it's not necessary to come - as in you're not waiting on unknown test results and new diagnosis - would that have made a difference to his answer I wonder?

That’s awful - DH wouldn’t hesitate to come with me for something like that.

If it's an ongoing condition and you know what they're going to say, why on earth do you need him there? You can call him or speak to him when he's home can't you?
Why would you get upset if you know what they're going to say already?

@supersonicginandtonic have you ever been given bad news.
Even though you might know it's bad news a little support goes a long way.

That’s a reasonable ending. It may have taken a little longer than you would have liked but he’s ultimately made the right decision.
I hope the news is as good as it can be.

Not sure. Do you live together?

If it was a spouse, I would probably say he/she should go, if you want them to.

I would not be bothered if my DH didn't come with me but he always wants me to go to his appointments.

I wouldn't dream of asking my long-term spouse to come with me - even though he is medically qualified. Hospital appointments are private consultations, to be treated accordingly. Any "bad news" needs to be digested and considered before being shared with anyone else.