to believe diamond shoes being too tight should be considered a real problem?

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People who earn 6 or 7 or even 9 or 10 figure salaries can have problems too.

Yes, these people have a level of privilege not afforded to many, and money means they usually have more choices available to solve their problems. However gatekeeping and shutting them down by saying they are not real problems by comparing to the worst off in society (the homeless, refugees from war zones, etc) is not productive.

Yes, their problems may not the deepest in the world. Neither are those of people who argue with their neighbours over their kids being able to get back their ball from over the fence - but these threads don't get shut down saying 'think about those who can't afford a football'?

As a society, we seem to have lost the ability to consider things on their individual merits.

In any case, if my diamond shoes are too tight - then the right advice should be advised to find a reputable high-end cobbler together with a reputable high-end jeweller to repair them.

For the sake of completeness, I hereby declare that I don't actually own any diamond shoes.

I rather have money and issues as opposed to being broke and having issues. Just saying🤷‍♀️

Compared to 90% of the world's population, everyone in the UK is wealthy. Just because someone on universal credit who has eaten maybe a couple of slices of dry toast today, has running water and access to the NHS, and so is incomparable richer than the family in Ethiopia who has no access to clean water, has seen three of their dc starve to death, has no access to healthcare even when their dc suffered a fatal accident, so even though the person on universal credit is wealthy beyond the wildest dreams of this Ethopian family, we probably would all agree that this person on universal credit had a right to share whatever worries them, and we'd feel sympathy for them. Where do you draw the line then? When becomes someone 'too wealthy' to be allowed to complain? Any such decision is pretty arbitrary and is only ever based on envy and disregard for once own privilege.

I think it comes down to a complete lack of being able to relate to how desperate some people really are. Someone I worked with was adamant the media were lying about the % of people having to skip meals because not even in their “poorest” moments would that ever have been an issue for them. They just couldn’t comprehend that some people are that poor. But yeah, I can’t get too bothered about the problems of the comfortably off.

I do think there is quite often a tendency to "race to the bottom" on MN. For example if you're less than about a size 18 and mention that you're not happy with your figure or have put on weight you tend to get short shrift on here.

I said to ds today the saying "money doesn't buy happiness, but it allows you to be miserable in comfort". He responded with "I'll go for the miserable in comfort".
I think that probably sums up what a lot of people feel. And actually I'd suspect on average people with money are happier simply because they have choices that others don't. I mean, things like if you hate your sibling it's nicer not to have to share a bedroom, and even better if you can each have your own room and bathroom, and even better still if you can have your own wing and never have to meet.

I will also add that when I said to ds that "money is the root of all evil" his response was "money is also the root of money squared, and I'll go for money squared."

Perfectly put.

Its tough when
She said honey take me dancing
But they ended up by sleeping
In a doorway

If you can afford diamond shoes you can afford to have that problem fixed. You can afford to fix many problems that others can’t.

Doesn’t mean you’re immune to real problems. You can be the richest person in the world but there’s still no cure to Alzheimer’s or arthritis or many other physical and mental health issues.

I'll bite.

We have a family income of £500,000+.

But we have things going on. It's very good to be able to throw money at problems. It doesn't make problems disappear, but it certainly gives options.

The good thing about having ready cash and difficult family situations is that you can explore options.

I often think about how hard things are for people in my situation without the money to do stuff.

Money is absolutely helpful. It doesn't stop things from happening though.

It's not an inoculation against the world.

I am a therapist and many of my clients are wealthy. Yes money grants more options, but it cannot prevent many of the issues commonly present with and sometimes causes complications for people.

That's all I can think of when I saw this thread, can't get it out of my head now (not complaining).

I'm not a fan of the read the room bollocks. If an OP comes on to a forum, and in an appropriate sub section, posts that their diamond shoes are too tight and how would others deal with it, what fecking room is she supposed to be reading? They started a post, asking for advice from others in the same situation. They didn't come into a thread on how the hell are benefits supposed to feed my family and heat my house and ask the question- they created the room and you're not obliged to visit it. People whose problems to you laughable, doesn't detract from the validity to them. I'm concerned about my mortgage increases- it's getting to the point I genuinely have NFI how I'll deal with the continual rises- but if someone said you should grateful at least you can buy food each week, it's not a race to the bottom and who is worse. Pose a question and it's up to you to decide if it's a room you wanna be in- commenting when it has no validity to you and you find it laughable, just to say you find it laughable I find a bit on the pathetic side.

It is a different version of thread policing innit?
I would hope the room is big enough to accept all sections of society. However it clearly isn't and only those seem deserving can post on certain topics.

And it is the love of money is the root of all evil.