To feel really guilty?

[theickfornick]

My daughter started coming out with chicken pox on Friday. It was her weekend at her dads so she was at his house. A good friend I hadn't seen in a while was back home visiting so I ended up going out with her on the Saturday and didn't get home till 5/6am.

Sunday I just spent the day recovering and my daughter came back on Monday. I feel like such a crap mum because other than play a few board games/watch a few films/get a takeaway we have done nothing else. I feel so tired both yesterday and today and have had naps both days. She has been on her phone most of the time and in and out baths.

She's 9 and so she seems content enough but I just feel like I should be baking cakes with her, doing arts and crafts etc. She hasn't been out the house since Friday and I just feel guilty that I'm not making things more fun for her.

I have arranged a play date for Thursday for her and we are going to the zoo Saturday but still. Yesterday I managed to pop out to the chemist and supermarket and today I've done nothing at all, not even cleaned up. All cause I've got a 3 day hangover! Ugh.

AIBU to feel like a crap mum?

Your daughter has chicken pox, which, unless it's been reclassified since I was a child (which admittedly wasn't yesterday) is a viral infection - she's ill.

Films / board games / baths / phone seems about the right level of stuff to do. If I wasn't well and somebody tried to make me do bloody arts and crafts or baking, I'd tell them to jog on.

Just let everybody rest, relax and recover - the world will not end because you're not busy every second of the day (especially not when you're ill, although I get your point that in your case it was a bit self-inflicted).

Oh I actually have covid. That explains the tiredness.

So you have covid, your DD has chickenpox and you've been going out? I assume you've been taking her with you as she is quite young to be left alone.

If thats real, its monumentally selfish.

Nope been leaving her in the house whilst I nip to shops. Very close with our neighbours so she knows to go there if an emergency and they were happy with that. Well I didn't know I had covid until I took a test there.....

The lft was negative this morning. I needed to get food so what's your issue?

So you don't have covid, which means going out is fine. You didn't say that though, you said you had covid.

Your DD has chicken pox. I'm sure she can forego baking.

I took an lft this morning, it was negative. I went to the shop this evening to get some bits and bobs and walking round the shop I was sweating and not feeling good, I came home and took an lft which was then positive. I didn't knowingly go out with covid and I haven't taken my daughter anywhere

You have nothing to feel guilty about OP. Hope you feel better soon.

Don't feel guilty. Especially as you are now unwell.

Sounds like some tv time is what is needed.

Hope you both get better soon.

I don't think you should feel guilty. Even if you take out the covid and chicken pox not baking and all that isn't necessarily a marker of an engaged and present mother.

Why have you arranged a play date on Thursday when she has only just developed the chicken pox?

She developed chicken pox Friday and they are almost all scabbed over. The other parent is aware and fine with it as her daughter has had it.

If she’s got chicken pox I doubt she feels like doing anything particularly exciting. She’s probably feels tired, itchy and a bit gross and would rather just do quiet, soothing stuff.

If she's got the pox and you've got covid it sounds like the perfect excuse for a few duvet days!

OP, you have nothing to feel guilty about. Parents, despite social media are not out all day everyday #makingmemories.

A fee days chilling in the house, eating crap and watching far to may films never killed anyone.