It’s a wedding one!

[NCBridesmaid]

Hello lovelies😻

I am a bridesmaid for a close childhood friend in a few weeks time. There is a lot of us 10 in total. (Friends,, sisters,, cousins)).
We are currently all discussing make-up and hair. Make-up soft ,and natural, everyone happy with that. Hair, now at first the bride suggested we all choose our own hairstyles. Great. It is not a fancy/formal wedding,, think more rustic natural chilled.

A few weeks ago the bride changed her mind and wanted bridesmaids for a half up and half down style. Again,, great no problem but now the bride is saying she would prefer all bridesmaids have hair in up-do’s. ,,I am starting to feel uncomfortable as I have a scar on my neck which I am very self conscious about. I know I’ts the brides day but would I be unreasonable to suggest I would prefer some hair down,, as to not draw attention to my neck. OR should I just suck it up as everybody else seems happy :/

If you're close enough to the bride to be a bridesmaid then you must be close enough to mention it to her? She won't want you feeling uncomfortable on the day, surely?

Not unreasonable to say it to her at all, it probably just hasn't occurred to her.

I would mention it to her if it will bother you. I’m sure she’ll want everyone to feel comfortable.

Yes if you're a bridesmaid then mention the scar. Just say you're a bit self concious about it so could you have a half up half down do? If she's a friend she will want you to be comfortable

I would hate to think that anything about my wedding choices was going to make my Bridesmaid feel uncomfortable or self conscious on the day so definitely tell her. If she's a good enough friend she will totally understand, and the others should too.

Can you put some concealer on the scar?

Definitely mention it to her. It probably hasn’t even occurred to her that it might be an issue for you.

Of course you tell her. Given how much she's changed her mind, she hopefully won't be bothered.

I'd have been mortified if I thought I'd made a decision that made a bridesmaid uncomfortable and if mentioned to me, I would definitely say yes lets have some updos and some half updos. Depends how bridezilla she is but do say something and hopefully she'll be chill about it.

Mention it, you can definitely find a compromise with her- maybe a low updo depending on where the scar is could cover it. A wedding is not a good enough reason for you to be uncomfortable

Just be honest with the bride