To be upset my daughter has pink shoulders

[Arista3]

So she has been to my mums today and has pink shoulders from the sun, now I’m worried she will get skin cancer later in life.

My great grandad put brill cream on me thinking it was suncream at 6- yes I burnt like hell but I'm 30 now and no after effects- just to add I'm extremely covered in freckles so get checked

Did you put any suncream on her this morning op?

I completely understand the fear. There is a history of skin cancer in my family and I do everything I can to stop my child getting burnt. However this was just the once. So as long as its been learnt from I imagine it will have very minimal impact on the chances.

Did you put cream on her before you sent her, and drop her off with a bottle and a request for her to be topped up?

Have you ever been out in the sun, applied sunscreen and had pink skin? Most people have. You are over reacting massively. Put on some aftersun, buy sunblock and relax.

You aren't unreasonable to be annoyed that she has sunburn (however mild). Your mom should have known to put sun cream on her or keep her out of the soon, I would be angry about that and be having a conversation with her.

You are unreasonable to jump to the thought of her having skin cancer later in life. That’s very very unlikely from one mild case of sunburn.

Your dd is not going to die, don't panic.
If it helps, as a teenager and beyond we used to mix olive oil and vinegar and slap it all over as sun cream then use sheets of tinfoil to reflect the sun on us and I'm still here.
Ahhh the good old days 😁
You need to remind your dm to put sun block on your dd and cover her arms and shoulders.

Did you apply sun cream before she left the house and ask for it to be reapplied?

I don't think it would be right to be annoyed if you didn't put some on as the parent in the first place.

It's uncomfortable for a time, but I'm sure she will be fine :)

Is be annoyed, but annoyed at myself for not sending her in a t-shirt with shoulders and adequate sun cream.

She's not likely to get skin cancer and die just because she burnt a little today.

Reverse

She went to my mums with a bloody dinosaur costume on so I creamed everywhere else and put a strappy top on so she wouldn’t be too warm! 😩 I sent the cream with her. Still my fault really should have put it on.

I'm fair skinned and no matter how much factor 50 I put on, how many times I re-apply or how much I try to seek out shade, if its hot and I'm outside I'm going to end up a bit pink. My DC are similar. The fact that your DD has pink shoulders doesn't mean your MIL hasnt tried.

Sorry just seen its DM not MIL. My point still stands.

Put your child in a light cotton top with sleeves and a hat with a brim and you'll never have to worry about sunburn.

Your child will eventually get ill but not from the sun, from your anxiety.

They got burnt. It happens. Let it go.

She was out enjoying herself.
And if she ever does get cancer, either from the sun or just bad luck - then she’ll have the happy memories of being able to play outside without any worries.

Next time remember to take some extra suncream but even then expect her to sometimes get burnt.
Its not going to cause skin cancer after a couple of times being burnt else we’d all have it.

@CallOnMe I needed that, thank you

Look up overreaction in the dictionary op

Was your mum providing childcare?

Tshirt, hat and sunscreen next time.

Lesson learned. Make sure she has sun cream on first thing AND wears a T-shirt. We have this ideal picture of little girls in the summer in preset dresses, or boys in vests or bare chested when the reality is they should ALL be covered from shoulder to knees in the sun. Or wear rashies when swimming outdoors.
UV is so strong between 10am and 4/5pm.

If she’s going somewhere else then a little bag with a mini suncream, hat and water should go with her.

We’re super cautious about the sun, SUPER cautious and both of our kids over the years have had sunburnt shoulders or faces.
don’t be too hard on yourself.

Most of us have been sunburnt at some stage. I'd guess a lot of us (me included) have been sunburnt many many times. Only a small number will to ok to develop skin cancer.

Its good to be careful, but you are also wildly overreacting.

Skin cancer from a one off episode of pink shoulders. Righto.

I'm sure you had the same issue as a kid as it's your own mum, and you're still here. Chill.