Who's at fault here?
BIL/SIL live 5 hours away from us. They moved several years ago and make the trip up to visit family/friends in our area roughly twice a year. They have 2 DC, including baby who we've not met.
Me and DH have had a terrible 18 months Mental breakdown/suicidal, wedding cancellation, loss of business and significant money long covid and a major bereavement. We've been through worst period of our lives so far. They know all this. We've not been able to visit them due to this and other reasons.
Whenever we head their way, we let them know and ask if they would like to meet up. Every time. All is fine when we see them at theirs. They however, never let us know they are heading up our way but they visit other friends and family. Not once have they let us know. We feel totally snubbed. We recently found out they were visiting our area through DH parents but heard nothing from BIL/SIL. We'd not met their baby yet, it would have been perfect opportunity to see the baby but heard nothing. But apparently, according to in laws, it's our fault because we don't invite them. How can we invite someone to visit if we are totally unaware they are up our way? It's only once we'd known they were heading up out of countless times.
We feel hurt and snubbed like they couldn't care less considering how much has happened to us.
AIBU?