Aibu - child pushing my child

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Child was pushing my child up against the park fence. Child is about 1 year older than my child. I was 20/30 paces away so couldn't physically move my child away.

I shouted "EXCUSE ME DO NOT PUSH HIM"

AIBU

why would it be unreasonable?

The mum then called her partner and I heard her saying 'I had to deal with a woman shouting at [child's name] as if I was U

Did the mum say anything to you?

Not much

Well, a parent who doesn't take any steps to stop their child hurting other children is very much the sort of parent who would take offense to someone else shouting at their little darling.

Dickheads raise dickheads. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

It's such a crazy thing to navigate park etiquette.
I said last year to a boy grabbing kids around the neck "woahh you can't do that, got to play nice" he told me to fuck off (he was about 7) so I asked where his parents were and he wouldn't say. He then sat and cried when the manager (pub park) asked him to play nice.
The dad then approached me calling me all sorts and how dare I speak to his kid. He then jumped in the car and came back with the mum although luckily I had left by this point. I had anxiety for weeks and genuinely didn't know if I had been unreasonable.
I don't think I would say anything again although some kids are really nasty little people.
I don't think YABU at all.
I hate parks

I hate parks and going out anywhere really with my youngest. He’s 8 and has ASD, today an incident occurred between him and around 7 other kids (ages 5-11ish). As he came down the slide one of them starting to hit him and then grabbing his top. At this point I was already on my way over and interviewed just disgusts me hi dons children behave and the parents are too busy sat on their phone or chatting to even notice what their previous darlings are up too. I tend to helicopter for this precise reason but at a distance. I’m aware his behaviour is challenging at times but he’s not always the antagoniser.

It’s ok to intervene if you feel you need to.

I vividly remember my poor dd being backed into a corner by two children trying to steal the toy she was playing with.

I just got up, blocked them and said, “it’s dd’s turn right now. Maybe you can play later. Go on. Go play somewhere else”

The mums did fuck all. Too busy sat having a coffee and a natter

Yes it's the playground etiquette thing that I'm not sure of

Of course it’s ok.
I’d like to think my DS wouldn’t do it but if he had went through a moment of sheer stupidity and pushed a younger child up against a wall I’d be more than happy for someone to shout at him 🤷‍♀️

Same thing happened to my DS (7) today. Two boys started picking on him about his football shirt and making personal comments about his shoes. DS was angry and tearful. DP told them to play nice and they started shouting "child abuse" at DP! He wanted to find the parents but in the end just took DS home. Probably for the best. I agree with pp, if the kids are like this then it's best to keep away from the parents.
I hate playgrounds.

Stop thinking in terms of etiquette, you sound very reasonable and should continue to act on what you feel is right.

The reason the other parents did not see this as correct etiquette is because they are pond scum.

Your reaction was completely justfied. You noticed your child being mistreated and you intervened the way you should have. I never understand parents who don't tell their kids off for doing the wrong thing. Honestly, you did nothing wrong!

Depends on age of children and if the situation was dangerous. In most circumstances I would go over and speak in an even tone rather than shouting