DH are pretty depressed and recovering from major trauma over a year ago. It’s affected us differently. We are also parenting twin toddlers who are extremely demanding but also bring us a lot of joy. Our current life set up is as follows us:
DH works in the NHS as a junior doctor. He used to like it but is showing all the signs of burn out. He says he’d quit in a heartbeat if it was affordable for us.
We send our twins to nursery 3 days a week. They love it but it costs a lot more than our mortgage.
I used to be a teacher, left at Christmas because of the stress and started working elsewhere. I hate my new job and I’m one of 7 people leaving soon. I’m trying to establish myself doing something else education related like tuition. It’s hard work and I’m exhausted. I feel trapped.
taking the twins out of childcare is not an option - it’s actually so exhausting looking after them solo and that’s what I end up doing a lot of the time due to my husbands work.
despite working part time I have piles and piles of laundry everywhere, I am constantly exhausted and my mental health is really suffering. I’m on the waiting list for therapy but we can’t afford private.
we have no local family support or close friends who can help with the twins. I am so envious of my friends that do.
our life just isn’t working. I know the children will not be this age for ever and it will get easier but I feel like I’ve missed a trick in how to not feel so miserable and burnt out all the time