Low key misogynistic attitudes in the workplace

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Chit chatting with a colleague same level as me (mid level, late 20s) and turns out that the senior people at our company have been giving him dating advice. They only do this when none of the women are in. Apparently they make comments about the women he goes on dates with, they bemoan getting married young, they encourage him to date women a lot younger than he is as they “haven’t hit their 30s and gained weight yet but don’t eat shit, more likely to be gym bunnies”. It made me feel a bit sick. They also said how the “perfect age gap” was half a mans age plus 7.

we also had another contractor come to our place to be interviewed (she was hired!) and colleague said “oh we should hire her” which was a reference to her being attractive.

it distresses me a bit that discussing women is a bonding exercise for them, so they’re getting closer as a result, and also pushes me away from them as it’s pretty disgusting and primitive. The fact they “carefully choose their moments” as My colleague said makes it worse, they know it’s not ok. Also not sure why he revealed all to me!!!

Not good OP

Ugh,that's rubbish. I thought this thread was going to be about getting females to organise the birthday list/cards, leaving collections etc which is bad enough and enrages me but this is even worse 🙄

It sounds like he's not particularly comfortable with it, otherwise why would he tell you?...maybe he's hoping you let your female colleagues know this is how they are referred to/treated by the (male) management?

Perhaps he should be encouraged to tell the men concerned that he does not want their advice, and if repeated in front of others (women or some men in fact) would probably be the subject of complaint about them.

Agree he may be uncomfortable about it.

Meh. I've said and heard worse things about how women should choose a male partner.

Josephine,do they also advise not to go out with men in their 30s cos they get fat