Would you say this is abusive?

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Male friend’s Fiancée is constantly asking him questions about any previous sexual encounters he had (before entering a relationship with her), and wanting to know everything that happened between him and other girls, e.g. dates he slept with people, clothes he was wearing etc.

She demands to see his phone to read his text messages between himself and family members (she wanted to know what he had been saying to his family about her).

Tells him he doesn’t care about her when he goes out for a few drinks with friends on his birthday weekend, and tells him she “doesn’t like who he is when he goes out for drinks with a particular friend”.

Our friend is seeing a Therapist who has condemned his Fiancée’s behaviour, and his Fiancée then tells him that he should stop seeing this Therapist because she’s giving him terrible advice (of course she would say that though 🙄).

Our friend is also afraid to leave the house alone without her for too long in case she gets annoyed at him for it.

If they get into an argument she will refuse to speak to him for days at a time.

Your poor friend. Of course it is abuse. Hope he can see it asap and get out; will he trust the therapist? x

It’s very controlling behaviour so yes, I would say it was manipulative and abusive. If this was my friend I would be supporting them to end the relationship.

Jesus. I hope your friend comes to their senses and doesn’t get married to this person.
Controlling & manipulative behaviour is absolutely abuse, your friend definitely should NOT stop seeing the therapist.

Of course it's abusive. Are you asking with the intention of showing him the replies? This isn't how a relationship should make anyone feel or act. It needs to end.

Yes it is abusive. Is he ready or able to leave?

yes thats extremely abusive. I hope he can find the strength and support to leave. It will only get worse.

Yes it's abusive and very controlling.

That poor bloke. Help him get away!

If I was your friend, I would end the engagement and block the fiancee on all possible channels. She is ridiculously controlling and yes, this is abusive.

What on earth can I do about this? He won’t leave her even though he knows it’s unhealthy. I don’t know how to help him

Omg this is excatly why I stopped speaking to a friendgirl

• she was treating her fiance the same way. Almost word for word and I couldnt handle listening to it anymore

She was controlling manipulative and judgemental. I had never seen that side to her during our friendship and when she got engaged it became worse.

Your are not based in scotland are you - this is spooky

I couldnt do anything as it was my friend - i had not even met him

If i was his friend i would have gently mentioned some of the unhealthy behaviours
I think his sisters did

But theres very little you can do but support him until the divorce really

Its not abuse
She is however batshit
And so is he (for staying with her) 😂

He'll have to work it out for himself.
There's nothing you can do.

Maybe phone Womens' Aid for a chat.

I think you might need it.

Please don't sit back and wait for his hurtful crumbs.

It saddens me that people still need to ask th we questions. Like why are we not educating people more??

He needs to get rid of her as soon as possible. If either of my sons were in a relationship with a woman like that, I'd advise them to dump her

It’s abuse and if it doesn’t get resolved then it will get worse

Of course it's abuse. She's controlling him, she's isolating him.
What the fuck is the smiley face for? 🙄

This must be a troll comment, if so, please have some respect for what the OPs friend is going through and for the seriousness of the situation, if not then please educate yourself on domestic abuse. Abuse isn't always violent, quite often not in fact.

To the OP, yes this is an abusive relationship, very much so. He needs support and he needs to get out. This will never improve, she will get worse and worse.