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CathyTheQueen · 31/07/2022 11:36

I feel ridiculous. One child nearly school age. Work 4 days a week. Ex involved at his say so apparently this is changing come September but we'll see. I'm being a wimp but I feel overwhelmed. Ex has child 1 weekend a month but that can be with a 6 weeks gap so not every 4 weeks. Weekend to him is Saturday am to Sunday pm. Don't ask me to ask him for more because he says no. He does 1 to 2 nights a week again on his terms. I've got to buy school uniform, social engagements and people's birthdays this month and it's all too much.

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Scaredypup · 31/07/2022 14:05

Are you young? By young I mean under 25. You sound it, and it’s hard but honestly as others have said you’d probably find it easier to cut contact unless he can stick to something formal. Give him set weekends he either shows up for them or has nothing. Don’t let him change it. It’s easier on your own.
ive been a single parent for 16 years. 2 kids. Neither have ever had a night or day with their Dad. I cut contact many years ago for similar reasons and he never tried to fight it. I did have grandparents support (my side) or I wouldn’t have coped. Youngest is now 9 and also has special needs, grandparents are too old to help out much now. It’s really hard but you do adjust.

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