To think if you block someone you have to expect the same in return ??!!

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So, had a HUGE argument with MIL - she then blocked me in all ways possible (phone, SM etc) . That’s her choice so fine BUT she’s outraged that dh has done the same to her !!!

Surely you can’t expect it to be ok to do to one person but believe it shouldn’t be done to you ? She said some very offensive things but is telling other family members her argument was with me and shouldn’t affect her relationship with dh 🤦‍♀️

It all sounds so childish tbh.

We have decided to go NC because it’s just deteriorated so much

Im just confused how someone can be so outraged at having the same done to them especially after some of the horrendous things said from their end

How do you know she’s outraged if you’ve blocked her and gone NC?

Of course you're not unreasonable. Why would your DH want to speak to someone who wants nothing to do with his wife. Be glad he's got your back.

Well clearly her beef is with you so she wouldn’t care if you blocked her back. She doesn’t see you and you and your DH as one entity so it’s not quite right to say you’ve done the same thing back because she didn’t block your DH just you.

all sound rather dramatic and messy though so o wouldn’t give it much thought of you both have decided to go no contact

Dh has been getting calls from his siblings relaying it all. He’s told them exactly why and what was said to me so they understand now

I just found it unbelievable she could say what she said then honestly believe she could still have a normal unaffected relationship with dh. She must be deluded. The things she said were that bad that I was shocked she doesn’t realise what she’s done (comments about disability and race- so really really horrendous)

I don’t argue or block but YANBU.

How dim and short sighted of her to think her relationship with her son would continue as normal! This is what we should see more of here.. husbands sticking up for their wives. Bet she thought they would have a closer relationship with you "out of the picture".
Good on your dh!

I've had this.

The flounce.

The absolute outrage that you've blocked them back, meaning they can't dip in and out of your DMs and SM feeds to see what you're saying about them.

It's never been with family though, so I've never had to try and remain civil to the 'flying monkeys' who are usually only given an untrue or half a story by the flouncer.

Your DH has your back. You've got yourself a good 'un there.

Well I say ‘argument’ but I didn’t really get a word in 🤣😞

I had similar from my father's batshit family. They were utterly abusive, a whole gang of them who decided they were going to block me as "punishment". Fine and dandy, but for some reason probably to hurl more abuse in a coordinated effort they all suddenly reappeared in my contacts so I immediately blocked them.

They went ballistic thanks for the info flying monkeys that I'd removed their ability to be abusive towards me at their convenience (don't know where I live). Some people are truly deranged, this is why block is such a marvel of the modern age.

As to the source of the abuse, I didn't agree with covering up for a cousin who was sleeping her way through all the married men in the area...they didn't see the harm! Ironically the cousin in question doesn't care what I think, and still speaks to me on civil terms!

She's being churlish. I bet she thought she'd come first in his life
Well done your husband!

Given the number of posts on here from women who’ve been subjected to horrendous nastiness from their in laws, but post about how to deal with their husband and children continuing relationships as normal I’m surprised you’re surprised at her reaction.

In her mind her argument is with you. And in her mind you’re wrong. So why, in her mind, would her own son block her when she’s done nothing to him?

Yes, I think she believed she was just removing me somehow and had seen me as the barrier between her and her son ? The problem had started when I was excluded from a get together and when I queried why she basically let rip and out came 15+ years of bottles up hatred (there I was thinking we got on ok 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️) but she chose to take it to an unacceptable level and the things said can’t be taken back as are that bad.

He is the youngest sibling and I know all that time ago when he left home and we moved in that she was devastated and often ‘joked’ I’d stolen him away but now I can see she really did think that And has resented me for 15 years and it all just came out and blew up

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OP, your husband is doing the right thing by supporting you. She's shot herself in the foot. I'm sorry she said those awful things to you.

Just keep her blocked and get your dh to tell his siblings that he doesn’t want to hear anything about his mother. She has no one but herself to blame.