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Are we being cheapskates or sensible?

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MrBojanglesz · 30/07/2022 22:42

We’re planning on going on holiday in the next couple of weeks we found somewhere and it is within our budget. BIL is now coming but when we add him on holiday goes up a grand but it’s 700PP without a free child’s place so we end up spending an extra £300 for him to come and have a whole family suite to himself.

hes gone all funny with us now because we don’t want to spend more money.

are we being unreasonable?

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Oblomov22 · 31/07/2022 11:31

I'm confused. Why is this a problem? Just tell him. Everyone knows it's cheaper to book for 4. You add in 1 more to 5, the price to rockets.

"Sorry bil, this just doesn't work. If I book for 4, it's £xxx total, £xxx per person. Cheap, good deal. But if I add in you, it costs £xxx, so Your'll have to pay the difference of £xxx, which I assume you won't want to do, because it's not cost effective, not a very good deal for you then."

Shinyandnew1 · 31/07/2022 11:37

BIL is now coming

How?
Did you invite him?
Do you want him there?!
You can’t just decide to go on someone else’s holiday.

He sounds like the sort of person who wants you to pay for, cook and clean for him all week-why on earth would you agree to him coming?!

cstaff · 31/07/2022 11:43

He is being a cf. We do the occasional extended family weekend in a hotel and we all pay for our own room regardless of whether there are 4 people in a room or a single person. He doesn't get to have you subsidise his holiday unless he wants to have your kids overnight for half the stay. I can't believe he thought this was normal.

Shinyandnew1 · 31/07/2022 11:49

MrBojanglesz · 30/07/2022 23:08

@AlmostAJillSandwich yes you’ve got it spot on! He can’t seem to understand why we don’t want to pay the extra! Laughable

But surely you just say no and then he doesn’t come? Problem solved.

Begoniasforever · 31/07/2022 11:55

AlmostAJillSandwich · 30/07/2022 23:03

So you have one family room booked for you, dh and any kids you have, for £1100, and for BIL to join he gets another family room just to himself and holiday total jumps to £2100?

Instead of paying the full £1000 increase for his room, he wants the 3 adults to split the total equally, meaning he pays £700 and you and dh then have a £1400 "share" between you, costing you £300 extra for the "pleasure" of BIL joining you?

If so, no way, cheeky fucker pays the whole extra ammount of £1000 for his room and doesn't get to offload part of his cost to you!

Wow. That’s really impressive that you worked that out from that op.

Luredbyapomegranate · 31/07/2022 13:02

Obviously not. He’d have to pay himself

Shinyandnew1 · 31/07/2022 13:37

How could you/anyone possibly think you are being cheapskates?

Dishwashersaurous · 31/07/2022 14:07

If he wants to come he just books his holiday separately and independently from yours

adorablecat · 31/07/2022 14:54

Do you actually want him to come on holiday with you? Is he going to help with the children so that you can have some free time? If so, I suppose it might be worth your while to subsidise him a little bit. If there is no prospect of his being any help or anything but a sponge, I'd suggest he books his own holiday, preferably on a different continent.

comealongponds · 31/07/2022 14:57

How did it get decided that BIL is coming?! He’s a grown adult, let him sort out and pay for his own holiday, don’t just add him to yours or pay any extra costs

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