To think this is an odd comment from someone in a mental health unit

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Dd is on one to one in an adult acute unit. She needed to use the loo as she had a male on her one to one she told him. His response was can it wait till the morning or are you desperate. Aibu to think people should be able to use the loo when they need to not be questioned.

This was at half 12 at night so not even very close to the day shift coming in

I don't think he should've said that. How is he in other ways? I really hope your daughter becomes well soon.

No it’s not acceptable.

I’m a manager in a mental health hospital. The nurse in charge should swap the make staff member for a female so she could use the bathroom. It’s not acceptable to tell someone to wait to meet their most basic need.

*male not make

I find it more odd that you are asking if it's odd. It's completely out of line and I would be raising a complaint.

Let's say she was asking him every 15 minutes for the toilet. For all he knew she had a UTI or had diabetic symptoms. It wouldn't be up to him to judge whether she needed the toilet or not. I think something should be said to his manager.

No that's completely unacceptable, did he give a reason?

Always helpful to kick someone when they're down. Glad you know for definite what you'd do in this situation. Hope your comment has made you feel good about yourself

Wow this is awful, imagine if someone was too anxious to say no it can’t wait and then just put up with it. Horrible feeling. I would raise this.

Also it’s quite degrading to her needs.

Does she not have access to a loo in her room?
When I have been inpatient, the loo had a curtain instead of a door, so the staff could still monitor your movement (via your feet anyway).
Regardless, it would not have been hard to have a female member of staff swap for a few minutes anyway so your DD could do her business

Not acceptable, her need for the bathroom should not be questioned but he should be swapped for a female staff member. They should have procedures in place for doing this. It’s also not a very intelligent question is it! Most people when they need the loo cannot wait hours…..

I would complain for sure. I’m a Ward Manager of a mental health ward and I would want to know about an issue like this.

Down right disrespectful

Always helpful to kick someone when they're down. Glad you know for definite what you'd do in this situation. Hope your comment has made you feel good about yourself

Eh? How is suggesting a complaint kicking someone when they are down?

Of course I know absolutely if my DD was not getting the very most basic care in this situation I would be raising a complaint.

The comment hasn't made me feel good about myself, no. It's just a comment. It was a suggestion that a complaint would be reasonable. Why would that 'make me feel good about myself'?

Not on at all

I also wouldn't be happy that there is male staff for vulnerable female patients.

I feel like there's more backstory.

Absolutely unacceptable to make someone wait that long. Asking someone if they can wait 5 mins as they are busy would be ok. Best wishes to your DD.

Nope not acceptable. If I saw this happening (I work in an acute adult mental health unit) I’d be intervening. Not ok. Most likely due to staffing issues… which is not ok for anyone involved but the priority is your daughter.

Yes having been a patient he should have swapped over rather then questioning her.