MIL remark-what would you make of it?

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Josie45 · 30/07/2022 19:44

DH has recently got a new job, MIL remarks(aimed at me not him) "isn't it funny how his new boss is a woman and his old boss was a woman"
At first I presume she's making some sort of (old fashioned) recognition that women can be in managerial roles, she's 83.
She then goes on to say "and she messages him at night, I wonder if she's got a husband and children and that's why she messages him at night"
DH works nights so that's why the new boss messages him at night as that's when he's working.
What do you make of this? I am overthinking it that she was trying to wind me up?

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Denny53 · 30/07/2022 19:45

Ignore her - treat her with the contempt she deserves

Coffeaddict · 30/07/2022 19:46

Ignore her.

PurpleFlower1983 · 30/07/2022 19:47

Ignore her completely. She’s trying to wind you up.

maddy68 · 30/07/2022 19:48

She's just making an observation. Older people can't understand career woman sometimes and she is wondering if she has kids and a husband

I would thread anything into ot

SurfBox · 30/07/2022 19:50

She's just making an observation. Older people can't understand career woman sometimes and she is wondering if she has kids and a husband

this, unless there is a backstory there is nothing malicious in her words.

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Josie45 · 30/07/2022 19:55

No major back story other than her constantly talking about his exs when he's not in the room, we've been together 5 years and she's done that from the start, oh and she clearly doesn't like her other DIL, calls her to us all the time.

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Muminncusa · 30/07/2022 19:58

She is 83, making conversation and speaking without thinking how you might misunderstand her meaning. She didn't say the female boss may have been putting moves on your husband, she was just reacting to how things have changed since she was young.

Trulyweird1 · 30/07/2022 19:59

MIL sounds like an ignorant bitch.
Given that she’s trying to stir trouble for you, and is unpleasant about her other DIL , I would say she struggles with the idea that her sons have cut the apron strings.
Ignore her, she’s not worth your energy,

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Josie45 · 30/07/2022 20:04

Trulyweird1 · 30/07/2022 19:59

Tbh she is hard work, she called the 13 Yr old boy fat, and remarked that the 22 Yr old GF was a big girl all on the same day, oh and even told DH that he never does anything for her-this was at a BBQ we were hosting for her birthday.

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L0bstersLass · 30/07/2022 20:23

She's old and can't imagine that women are the boss.
When I got my first managerial job, my father couldn't get his head around the fact that all my direct reports were older than me. He said "why on earth will they listen to you?"
It's the bonkersness of old people. Ignore.

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