Not sure if I'm over reacting or not

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So Im not sure if im just being extremely sensitive just now or not. Im 31 weeks pregnant, I moved house not too long ago and we weren't aware before we bought that the shower was leaking into our neighbours flat. We had someone come out to look at it and he said the floor is so badly damaged to stop what's happening the only option is to get a full new bathroom suite. This is costing me and my boyfriend 3 grand. We also have stuff still to get for our baby etc.

I have absolutely no problem with him going out with his friends at all, he's been out multiple times during my pregnancy but this was before we had so much to pay for. He was also out last weekend and is out again tonight. I just feel like we should be trying to keep all of our money to go towards these things rather than wasting it on alcohol?

I just think if it was me and if I was in a position to be going out (obv I'm not just now as im pregnant) I would miss it as we need all our money?

Have you spoken to him about it?

@Shgytfgtf111 I have yeah, he says fine I won't go then but feel like this is a moody answer like he obviously isn't happy with it and then I feel guilty as if I'm telling him what he can and can't do which I would never do

How much is he spending and how does that compare with what you are able to save for the bathroom?

@Ponoka7 about £100 which I know isn't a massive amount but were not able to use our shower just now at all until it is ripped out and a new one put in and I just feel like that 100 could go towards it, again though I don't know if my hormones are just making me overly sensitive just now

He needs to grow up and stay at home. He has responsibilities now.

@MadeForThis I have been trying to say this but feel he just isn't understanding me and thinking I'm trying to stop him going out but genuinely I never would, I just think our money could go to much better use just now

how do you split finances? Do you work? What’s the plan after your maternity leave?

@Blanca87 we have a joint account where both of our wages go in to and bills are just paid from there. I work full time and after maternity leave I'm going back to work full time also

That’s good. I suppose it’s just being clear with him that your income during maternity will reduce but your outgoings will increase and if this continues how does he expect you both to afford it all.