6 out of 10

[Penguinparty88]

So was chatting to OH just general chit chat and I asked him what he would rate himself out of 10 looks wise and he said probably a 6 more above average I said oh right ok and he asked me back to which I said well in my prime probably a 6 however now after constantly running around after the little one, early mornings, no sleep and a little on the heavy side probably a 4, he then went on and said ah ok well I wouldn't say a 4 but definitely a 6.... I just looked at him at his face deadly serious! I guess my question is this - I thought being "his world" he would at least give me a 10/10 and I'm pretty miffed I didn't get it - silly I know but would be nice to think he thinks I'm a good 10/10! Just wanted thoughts I guess!

My thoughts are you being entirely unreasonable you can love the pants of someone and still know that they're flawed and not everyone's cup of tea, or not meet societies definition of beauty and therefore be a ten!

Well your reaction was oh right ok so imagine how shit he felt

Why should you get 10 when you rated him a 6?

Such a loaded question. A little bit like "does my bum look big in this " unfair to ask . Don't set him up to fail

I had this chat with my ex once. I told him he was an 8 who thought he was a 10, and I was a 7 who thought I was a 5. He agreed!

Looking back he’s a 7 too.

it’s hard trying to score people you know and love - or indeed yourself - out of 10, as it’s so subjective. Just let it go. As long as he makes you feel loved and attractive the rest of the time that’s the main thing.

You're being ridiculous.

Why would you even have this conversation?
I'm insecure enough without knowing my partner fancies/rates other people higher than me, so i'd never ask, and if he ever asked, i'd tell him truthfully that i love and adore him exactly how he is and i wouldn't change a thing, so a number is meaningless.

I think my DH is the most amazing handsome cutest guy ever but even I know he's not an objective 10. I wouldn't want to be rated 10 as I'd just think, you're lying 😂

I'd be gutted too. It's a kind white lie. Why would you make your partner feel shit by saying otherwise

Aww I get you, OP. You want your OH to think you’re the best thing ever, and only a 10 will do.

I do actually think my DH is a 10 and he would say the same about me. It’s how you should feel about your OH 🤷🏻‍♀️

Only supermodels are tens. David Gandy, Claudia Shiffer etc etc

Average folks are well, average

Play silly games, win silly prizes.

Well if you wanted to just play "ahhhh I'll tell you what you want to hear" games then why did you not tell him he was a 10/10 when he said he was 6/10? How do you think that made him feel?

Seriously grow up and stop rating people out of 10.

Why did you even ask him that in the first place? Accept his answer (no ego boost) then get annoyed that he asked you back (polite) and didn't tell you that you are hotter than Angelina Jolie.

I mean, unless you are. In which case is he is really a 6/10 and not being modest you can ditch him, if you are shallow and that's what matters.

Or, you could just grow up.

Ooh ok thanks all I guess lesson learnt not to ask silly questions, it was going with the theme of the chit chat, nice to have other perspectives tho!

These are topics that should always be avoided. We only want to hear that we're a 10 in the eyes of our loved ones.

True, but then if they say 10 you you think they're just saying what you want to hear rather than what they really think, so it's a minefield!

So you rated him a 6 but are put out that he didn’t rate you a 10. What are you on?

It’s a silly question anyway. Unless you’re strikingly beautiful you’re not a 10. It would be a lie. Of course, he might have highlighted that you look lovely but we don’t always seize an opportunity when we can. He was just chatting.