Ex putting 5 year old in front seat with no car seat

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Kevintheelf80 · 29/07/2022 21:57

I am absolutely fuming that my ex husband continues to put our 5 year old in the front seat of his car with no child car seat whatsoever. Am I just being picky or is it actually more dangerous to do that? I oy found out once she came back and told me even though I have said to him on more than one occasion that it is not safe! Aibu to be angry at this or am I over reacting?

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MintJulia · 31/07/2022 05:51

I made this very simple for my ex when he wouldn't listen to reason. If he tried to take ds in his car without an appropriate car seat I would dial 999 right there and then, and report him.

The police are interested. They don't want to have to deal with the death of a child. Ex was furious but he went out and bought a car seat.

Newuser82 · 31/07/2022 07:21

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 30/07/2022 13:40

Children need to be in a seat or high back booster until they are 12

Not necessarily. They can be in until they are 135cm tall. Most kids reach that well before aged 12

Yes, my son was over 135cm by age 8.

CalistoNoSolo · 31/07/2022 07:32

Report to the police. I reported an unrestrained toddler in a car and the police took it very seriously.

Randomthoughts992 · 31/07/2022 07:36

does he not even use a booster seat?
I wouldn't be letting him take my child until he started using a booster.

Sunflowerkeep · 31/07/2022 07:46

AperolWhore · 29/07/2022 22:00

It’s illegal and a huge safeguarding issue. Children need to be in a seat or high back booster until they are 12.

Can you report him to social services and stop contact until he resolved this? I would not allow my child to continuously travel in an unsafe way.

They'll have a word with if that. As for huge safeguarding issues then you clearly haven't been around family courses and social services. They will have a word if that. Sorry, I know how horrible it is to deal with exes like thiis

Sunflowerkeep · 31/07/2022 07:49

Yeah police are a better bet than SS. However again, it will be a word and probably just a booster seat will be needed and he will jusy have to get it.

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Kevintheelf80 · 31/07/2022 18:53

He has a full seat for her. It has just been the odd occasion when he has forgotten to bring it and thought the journey was not too long and would be OK, no malice involved, he has apologised and sworn never to do it again which is why I wanted to go down the stats route to cement in his mind that he can never risk this again for any journey. Yes of course it is dangerous and illegal but nothing happened thankfully in this case and was mainly a massive error in judgement on his part. Phoning the police and having a hostile relationship with the father of your children will never be good for those children. And before anybody says, being put in danger is never good for those children either, I fully know this and believe me if this happens again then I absolutely will be contacting the police.

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BertieBotts · 01/08/2022 08:40

I can see how that happens in his mind. However yes police would take a dim view - there is an exception for unexpected unplanned unavoidable travel (basically, emergencies) over as short a distance as possible BUT "I forgot and we aren't going far" doesn't count as that.

He should just strap the seat in to the back of the car so it's there all the time, I presume he doesn't regularly carry 4 adult passengers. Then he can't forget it :)

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