Is this offensive or am I over sensitive?

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I have been seeing a man who is a bit older than me, so there is a bit of an age gap between us....

He was talking about a woman he knows (who is around my age) and said she is married to a man older than her (but the age gap between them is not as big as the gap between us). He said he went to their wedding and was surprised. I said 'why is that?' He said 'because she's a very attractive woman so I expected her to be with someone closer to her age.'

I said 'so you think only ugly women would be in a relationship with someone older than them?' And he said he didn't mean it like that.

Am I being over sensitive?

Yes

Very

It's a weird thing to comment on but you are being oversensitive.

Um... I don't think you're being oversensitive. How else could he have meant it? Make him explain himself.

I wouldn’t be offended.

I would have been offended but I am a little over sensitive. Did he explain what he actually meant?

You are being over sensitive. Maybe he also feels you're out of his league and wonders why you're not with someone your own age when you could be.

There is a gap between my Partner and I and when we first got together he would often tell me he couldn't understand why I would want to be with him when he was older and I could have had a choice of guys my own age (he's only 8 years older).

I think when you're in a relationship the age gap seems completely different than it does when you're looking at a relationship as an outsider.

There's 10 years between me and DP but I often feel very surprised when I meet other couples with a similar age gap.

He probably didn’t even link in his head that their situation was similar to yours.
Or maybe he thinks he’s far more attractive than his friend so can easily understand how he got a partner like you.
It’s not always the negative. I think you’re reading too much into it.

He probably said it without thinking but I can see why you’d be hurt

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