Visited a friend recently and it came up in conversation how tired she was, after quite a few nights with broken sleep recently. We’re both in our 30s, no kids btw.
I asked why and she said her DP is suffering from tinnitus at the moment which means he’s finding it hard to sleep. This is a recurring problem which he’s seeing the doctor for, but is going through a particularly rough patch at the moment. She says that obviously when he wakes up in the night, she wakes up too, and that he then spends a couple of hours moaning about it, moving his pillow around, pacing around the house, generally in discomfort which is understandable.
I expressed my sympathies but was thinking why on earth is she letting him keep her awake for hours every night? If it were my DP, I might have consoled him on the first night, maybe second, but after that pretty much told him I need to sleep now or probably slept in the spare room! They do have a spare room as well. Am I being selfish or is this an unacceptable reason to be kept awake for days on end?