Could be a long post but here we go
My dad died recently and I’ve just realised what I’ve been feeling about it. I’m angry. I'm angry he wouldn’t get the Covid jab. I'm angry he caught covid in hospital and died. I’m angry my family wouldn’t bother with him while he was alive but once he was gone they were staking claims to his belongings. Yes he was a cantankerous old fart but he was their family. It was left to me, the youngest, to always be there for him. Christmas was a prime example of this. Nobody wanted to have him over for Christmas dinner. Nobody. So of course he’d come over to ours (partner didn’t really like him either) every Christmas because I couldn’t let him be alone. My mum died in 2000 so that was over 20 years he spent Christmas in some form with me and whoever I was dating at the time. My brother had an odd relationship with him and I’m sure his wife had told him to not invite dad over for Christmas dinners. My dads sister used to drive past the end of the road and never once did she call in to see him. They all had his phone number and didn’t call him to see how he was. I’m just angry and I don’t know what to do with this feeling. I’m a very “whatever will be, will be” kinda person (having my mum sick from me being 11 years old kinda changes your view on life) but I’m actually angry about this. AIBU all families are dysfunctional or AINBU I’d be angry too?