Would this annoy you?

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MIL told me to pack away all my old, nice but small clothes and give to her so she can give to other people as I will never be skinny again.

i was a smaller size before but due to some traumas in life I started emotionally eating. She likes to tell me how huge I am on a daily basis. I have started a weight management program yesterday and her comments made me overeat yesterday after her phone call.

Your MIL sounds like a bitter twisted excuse for a human and thus you can ignore anything she says.

Stop talking to her so often. if she calls either don't answer or answer and say "sorry, can't talk right now, horribly busy" and hang up. Practice doing it.

I think you'd be better off using the energy you expend having interactions with her in building your confidence to tell her to fuck off because she's a bitter old woman with her best years behind her.

I've got a good one for you honey, say this:

"I packaged up all these clothes for you to wear, they're a bit old fashioned and would look better on an older person."

What's good for the goose is good for the gander!

What does your DH have to say about his mother's awful comments?
I think you have a DH problem if he's not telling her to fuck off.
Go NC and refuse to have anything to do with her.

Thank you all. So lovely to have some support. DH is not supportive. His response is always that I’m too sensitive. @Coffeeenema that made he laugh! I might try that if I’m feeling brave.

Her comments didn't make you overeat. You overate because you're an emotional eater and got triggered. You need to accept responsibility. That said you need to distance yourself from triggers, pls do this.

I'd be cutting this vile woman out of my life completely if I were you, leave your husband to deal with her venom and also, it's got absolutely fuck all to do with her what you do with your old clothes.

Your as bad as the MIL, knocking the OP when she's already down.
I know this is AIBU but your comment is totally uncalled for.
If you can't say anything constructive then don't say anything.

Start commenting how old she's getting and she should give her away some of her clothes because they only suit younger women and she's never going to be young again. Mention mutton dressed as lamb.

No, don't do that, but jfc I'll never understand why some people are so needlessly mean!

She’s obviously way out of order, but even if you did want to give away your old clothes, they’re not hers and she has no right to take them.

*You're - bloody autocorrect. 🙄

She's a bully, plain and simple. Either stop speaking to her or rise above it and become thicker skinned to her bullying comments. Once you gain the confidence, laugh at her silly comments and tell her she's just jealous of your youth.

Teach your children that their grandmother is insensitive and make sure they let you know if she ever upsets them or makes them feel uncomfortable. Otherwise she might bully them too.

She sounds horrid , what is wrong with some people ??!!

I suppose because she is Asian she is the matriarch and everyone does what she says ..

This is not for me and you shouldn't have to deal with it .

I would take the matter of fact approach to her appearance.

One of my aunts in front of other family said I let myself go after having dc (Ive put on weight but still into looking nice) & I need to cut back on working to spend more time in the gym. I told her she should be more concerned with her own appearance as all those sun holidays had wracked havoc on her skin & maybe take one less holiday & spend the money on fixing her underbite. She never said anything since.

She's a poisonous bitch and must be a big factor in why you're so sad and punishing yourself with emotional eating. Getting shot of her would be the first step in changing your life for the better love.

Way to be supportive 🙄

From another angle (but she sounds like a bitch).
Does she (and your husband) understand why you gained the weight? There were traumas which by their nature are traumatic. Keeping those clothes is how you are choosing to deal with Your trauma.

That's really badly explained.. but my experience: I had my driving licence taken away for medical grounds. I had no idea if I would ever get it back. It was a tough time getting a diagnosis and dealing with it.
My husband suggested we sell our second car. I had to explain I wasn't ready to accept I would never drive again and for the cost of tax I needed to keep it.

For the cost of storage (and these people who need your old clothes) you might not be ready to accept the trauma.

Also I'm available to tell her to do one.

She sounds like a total bitch, so more than annoying.

Look up grey rock and start applying that technique to her.

Contact your community centre and look around locally and try and find an assertiveness course.

Look up alternative ways to deal with your emotions than comfort eating. bEAT is a good online resource.