To want dh not to travel to UK (live in Ireland) when I'm 38wks pregnant?

[Ispy]

It's one of those trips he 'has' to go on... He will be leaving on the red-eye flight Tuesday morning and returning late Thursday night, so that's 3 whole days and 2 full nights with 5 and 3 year old...

I REALLY don't want him to go.. I'm hugely uncomfortable at this stage of pregnancy and while it's unlikely I'll go early (based on previous 2 labours being overdue) I'm still shit-scared that it could happen.

What do you think and how would you handle this if you were in my position?

YANBU, you could go into labour any day now! Have you asked him not to go?

Do you think he really has to go, business wise? I am 38 weeks too and dh is working long hours, but to be fair, isn't actually going away and I wouldn't feel too great if he did.

Do you have anyone nearby who can help and how quickly could dh get back if he needed to?

I'm with beansprout. It seems to me that if he ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY HAS to go then it is essential that you have family/close friends on hand to help you should you need it. And that does not just mean going in to labour, it means helping with the children too. And essential that there is an action plan in place for him to get back very quickly to make you feel as secure as you possible can.

What does he do? Is he chairman of ICI or Bertie Aherne? Have you explained how you are feeling and how did he react?

After reading your messages, decided to just tell him that i felt it wasn't appropriate for him to go. He immediately said he would cancel the trip. He seems a slight bit pissed off but I really don't care as I just think I would have lost the plot if he had gone.

Let me just say in his defence though that he is a wonderful dh and Dad. Perhaps in this instance he just doesn't 'get' it..

Thanks for your help. I needed to know I wasn't been unreasonable.

YANBU. I had a similar situation when I was not even quite so far on and I insisted that my dh have a contingency plan to get back asap if I needed him to. He was only going a couple of hundred miles or so, too. The trip didn't happen in the end.

Just cos you went late last 2 times doesn't mean you couldn't go early this time and aren't labours usually shorter when you've given birth before?

i dont think ur unreasonable! i had my baby at 32 weeks an emergency caesarean and it went from me bein fine to go home to them taking the baby out in a matter of hours...so anything can happen is it really woth him risking not bein there for you?

Didn't for one second think he was being awful just men sometimes are so single minded about 'business' and forget small unimportant details like the birth of their children! I'm glad he so quickly agreed to cancel. And best of luck for the big event.

I'm Irish myself and gave birth to my ds in Wexford. Back in the UK now due to husbands work.

Oh I'm glad he cancelled it, Ispy! At lease you can rest assured that he won't be dependant on Ryanair to get home because I wouldn't depend on them for anything after the hours I have spent in Dublin/Luton waiting for delayed flights! Do you post on Rollercoaster.ie btw. My SIL is on the January 08 threads there!

Blimey YWNBU. Good thing he saw sense. Good luck!

Thanks all. Feel so much better now! Time to start taking rasberry leaf tea..
Chipmonkey, I do post on rollercoaster, but have to say much prefer the diversity of mumsnet!

Me too! I also like quick replies!