To find this annoying

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I like making plans with friends in the holidays, it's nice for me to have an adult to talk to and most of our dc are similar ages and get along so it's good for them too.

But lately I've found it really annoying that they'll cancel plans last minute leaving my dc disappointed or I'll suggest something and say what time I'm going and be met with "that sounds good we'll meet you there at x time" (usually 3 hours later than I've suggested) which throws my plans for the rest of the day off. Of course in that situation I should just say sorry that doesn't work for us but I'm usually the one who compromises.

Also turning up late leaving me waiting in the car with impatient dc and a screaming baby!

I'm trying to chill but I'm having to be quite rigorous with planning as I've got to cater for dc and a baby and it's hard enough getting out the door with them in a morning never mind having plans changed at the last minute.

I feel like just doing things alone with dc but they do enjoy the company of others.

They also may have to plan there day and cant revolve the day around you and your DC 🤔

If they don't arrive on time just carry on as you were with DC, don't let other people affect your whole day. Its weird

@Cas112 that's fine so just say it doesn't work for them? I feel like im always waiting around for other people or having plans cancelled/altered last minute.

If I've arranged to meet someone im not sure what's weird about waiting for them to turn up but yeah I will just please myself from now on. I guess my point is it's annoying when people are flaky. If I plan something with others I stick to it and certainly don't change things at the last minute unless there's a very good reason.

You need to be more flexible and try to chill. Me and my friends are always late for each other and cancel plans last minute- but we've all got kids and busy lives so whatever.. it's always good fun when we can finally get some time together.
Don't get upset over it.

I'm with you OP, I've stop telling my kids who were meeting or where we are going to avoid the upset when other people drop out or change plans at the last minute.

You're probably right @boingy I'm just finding things a bit more stressful right now as I'm trying to make plans for older dc while also juggling a 4 month old baby. It's hard work getting out in a morning on broken sleep without having to fart around waiting for other people. But I guess we all have kids and lives. I'll try to chill and arrange a few things on our own too.

YANBU. Flakiness winds me up majorly. I get that people have busy lives but sometimes the thing they are busy doing is meeting me!
Ultimately I think it's just that people have different personalities and attitudes to this sort of thing and you have to find friends you are compatible with on this.

Yanbu, I think its fine to cancel at least the day before but not on the day or not even pitch up.