To let my teen DD help with childcare today?

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I suffer from migraines during my period. I'm having a huge flare up currently (day 3 of a horrible migraine and heavy bleeding) and I'm maxed out on pain meds. DH is working til 9.30pm. I am home with our toddler. Teen DD (16) is also home today. She could see I'm struggling in pain and has just ordered me to "go and relax, I'll feed toddler her lunch", and she just took over. I refused to go to bed as I don't want to completely leave her in charge, but I'm sat in the living room and just feeling really guilty and shit. Am I shit mum for letting eldest DD help me with childcare today? She seemed happy enough to do it and I can hear them giggling together in the dining room. I just feel bad about it. 😞

I let my 9yo DD make tea and heat me up soup when I had covid so don't feel guilty for doing what is best.

What a lovely teenager. Get to bed and feel better. I'm a regular migraine sufferer myself - if you ask a doctor you might be prescribed something to help (I take rizatriptan when I have a migraine)

Some girls are mothers at 16. Dose yourself up and get to bed, she'll be absolutely fine.

You didn't ask, she offered (well told you 😂) so I'd leave her too it! If you're still in the house, I doubt there's much that could go wrong!

She sounds like a lovely caring girl! You must be very proud of her.She is helping you while you are ill, not doing 9/5 5 days a week of childcare.Off to bed you pop!

I think it's fine. I have a 14 and 6 year old and I've always made sure not to see the eldest as a babysitter, but he will sometimes make his brother's breakfast if I'm in a rush in the morning and will watch him (meaning they both play computer games) for 30 minutes or so between my husband leaving for work and me getting home. I don't feel guilty about it, I think families should all chip in and it's not a regular thing.