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Original poster

To ask DH to come home from work

35 replies

Zooli · 28/07/2022 12:26

I am still struggling to bad with COVID, I have 2 young kids, manage to get put to the park this morning but I literally have no energy and feel so guilty that we have come home to watch TV again. I really feel I could do with the support from DH as I feel so grim.

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Tiani4 · 28/07/2022 12:29

That's fine. Put the electronic babysitter on, give the DCs biscuit pack and let them have at it for their lunch. Lay in the sofa and close your eyes if your DCs are safe in same room .
Your DH can hoover biscuit crumbs, tidy up and cook tea when he gets home

Just get through this x

WelliesandWine88 · 28/07/2022 12:30

Definitely a reasonable request. I had a terrible tummy bug recently as dd(5). My husband booked 2 days off (without me asking) because we couldn't even leave bed and my ds (3) is like a tornado.😂

Sanfranciscobabe · 28/07/2022 12:30

Why on earth did you drag yourself to the park? Tv/tablets/endless snacks is the answer here

Anothernamechangeplease · 28/07/2022 12:31

Nothing wrong with a bit of TV when you're poorly. Just do what you have to do to get yourself through.

LadyCatStark · 28/07/2022 12:31

We’ll you shouldn’t really be going to the park if you have covid. I know there’s no self isolation rules anymore but there’s still common sense. Your children have had a trip out though so they’re luckier than many children and a day of films won’t do them any harm.

Nadal · 28/07/2022 12:31

You are ill. TV is fine.

Mally100 · 28/07/2022 12:31

Sanfranciscobabe · 28/07/2022 12:30

Why on earth did you drag yourself to the park? Tv/tablets/endless snacks is the answer here

Exactly. Don't be a martyr. Put the TV on fgs and go lie down.

RainbowsMoonbeams · 28/07/2022 12:32

You are making life harder for yourself by going to the park. Agree with other posters - TV and snacks are fine for DC.

Get well soon.

Footbal · 28/07/2022 12:33

Lie on the sofa and let kids watch TV. Do some toast or pizza for lunch. Don't worry about cleaning up. I wouldn't ask DH to come home from work though.

Sirzy · 28/07/2022 12:35

Dragging or not going to the park wasn’t needed and you have made things harder for yourself. A day in the house watching tv or whatever won’t do any harm

Teacupsandtoast · 28/07/2022 12:36

You dont need your dh to come home and supervise your kids watching tv.

girlmom21 · 28/07/2022 12:36

How old are the kids?

sst1234 · 28/07/2022 12:38

LadyCatStark · 28/07/2022 12:31

We’ll you shouldn’t really be going to the park if you have covid. I know there’s no self isolation rules anymore but there’s still common sense. Your children have had a trip out though so they’re luckier than many children and a day of films won’t do them any harm.

Here we go. Covid police is here. Careful OP, you’ll be called selfish for going to the park with Covid.

HangOnToYourself · 28/07/2022 12:39

If you are well enough to go to the park.in the first place you dont need your DH to come home from work. A few days of tv wont kill anyone and you shouldnt be going out in public with covid unless you have to anyway.

AnneLovesGilbert · 28/07/2022 12:40

What do the kids need apart from entertainment that you’re unable to provide them on your own? How old are they?

Original poster
Zooli · 28/07/2022 12:40

4 and 2, I no longer have a positive test as it has been over a week but it is still lingering on, the exhaustion is awful.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 28/07/2022 12:41

When’s he due home?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/07/2022 12:41

Unless they are actual babies, stick the tv on and just order takeaway for dinner/ given them plenty of snacks etc. Maybe warn your DH that this is what’s going on but I don’t think he needs to come home.

If there is a baby involved then maybe he should come back.

The holidays are 6 weeks so there will be plenty of time to do stuff with the kids.It’s just the way it is with Covid at the moment.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/07/2022 12:42

Seen your up date - hopefully 2 yr will watch tv!

BeanieTeen · 28/07/2022 12:43

If you’re genuinely too ill to supervise your children, then I’d say yes.
But if you’re simply clutching pearls at the idea of them watching tv for the day, no. They’ll get over it.

Mrsjayy · 28/07/2022 12:43

I mean you did yourself no favours going to the park but you managed TV and you sitting down with them is fine, what age are they ?

Mrsjayy · 28/07/2022 12:45

2 and 4 can mooch around the house for the day would your husband be able to take time off work to come home if or maybe take the day off tomorrow.

Hamster1111 · 28/07/2022 12:45

Stick the TV on, get the tablets out, fill the living room with toys and just lay there doing the bare minimum. Order food / give them a packet of crisps. I don't think you need anyone to come help - just accept that you can't do anything much for a few days and your DH can tidy etc when he is home.

FrazzleDazz · 28/07/2022 12:46

As everyone else has said, don't be hard on yourself, TV, iPads etc whatever you need to do to occupy them so you can rest. If it's possible for your DH to take some time off obviously you can ask you're a team! But if he's just as useful tag teaming once he's home and cleaning up the mess, feeding them a proper meal and doing the bedtime routine whilst you go to bed yourself, maybe that's ok too Flowers

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 28/07/2022 12:46

At 3, my DS can now be convinced to have some TV time for a few hours when there’s serious illness in the house. At 2 - not a chance. Looking after a 2-year-old is extremely full on. Could your DH do a couple of half days?