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Aibu to be suspicious? What would you do? Would you ask him?

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Fredooo · 27/07/2022 22:49

Strange one but I’m confused and it’s making me feel uneasy.

I have been seeing a man for a few months. As far as I knew I’m the only person he has been seeing. he lives on the same street as me.

He told me a while ago that he has a woman who dog sits for him and walks his dog during the day. The dog is quite a nervous dog and needs a lot of attention. Apparently this woman is married and he is friends with her and her husband.

The other morning I was parked up near his and got in my car. I looked and there was a woman looking out the living room curtain. I presumed it was his dog walker but now I’m worried he’s got another woman. It was quite early in the morning (not long after he lives for work) so I thought it would be weird for his dog walker to be there so early in the morning.

I have put two and two together and he has been giving lots of excuses recently as to why he can’t see me. He’s unwell or his back is bad or he’s going to be late back for work. I haven’t seen him in nearly two weeks and it’s always an excuse since. He won’t commit to seeing me and he’s cancelled on me for the last few times coming over to his. Aibu to be suspicious and think that this wasn’t the dog walker and he had a woman stop over? Would you ask him?

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LightSpeeds · 27/07/2022 22:51

I'd just dump him!

mrs55 · 27/07/2022 22:56

He's seeing other people just block him don't ask him what's going on or escalate it he's not worth your time, if he wanted to see you he would be making the effort you deserve more op.

DramaAlpaca · 27/07/2022 22:57

I'd get in there first and dump him now. I wouldn't bother asking him.

He's not that into you, I'm sorry to say.

Teapot1990 · 27/07/2022 22:58

I would move on and if he's genuinely interested he will let you know! If he wanted to see you he would. Not nice to hear I know but there will be someone out there who be really keen to plan next date and make you feel special. Talking from experience as similar happened to me when I was younger.

Pixiedust878 · 27/07/2022 22:58

I wouldn’t bother asking. Just move on, it’s fizzled out.

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