Husband been searching and looking at woman’s Facebook profiles

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Title says it all been married for 8 years and have had an awful gut feeling for a little while now but have shrugged it off last night something told me to check his phone something I have never done in 12 years!

i looked at his Facebook search bar and he has been looking at local woman I think he went to school with I’m not sure why he would be looking at them but it really has made me feel quite sick no messages etc just searches.

i haven’t asked him as I don’t know how to approach the situation without coming across as accusing him of something that could be innocent and him just being nosey but even then why would he want to look?

just after some advice really I honestly don’t know how to feel am I being unreasonable to feel upset?

thanks all

I often search for people I went to school with. I'd say nothing untoward there. Further investigation needed if your gut is saying something is off.

Women or Woman?

one is more concerning than several. Several implies curiosity.

I think he might be nosey and perhaps reminiscing past I don't know.

but other than looking he hasn't done anything or crossed a line so I wouldn't be too bothered.

people search people all the time to see what's become of them etc doesn't mean they are cheating.

That in itself wouldn't upset me but if you had a gut feeling, why was that? Is there something else he's done that's made you suspect he's up to something?

I often do this and am super happily married- just curious about the path peoples lives have taken

Pretty sure I’ve searched for loads of male classmates and boyfriends from my teenage years on Facebook. Been with DP 20 years and have zero romantic or sexual interest in anyone. It’s just idle reminiscing and thinking “Oh, remember that lad, he used to be a goth. I wonder what he looks like now” or “Ugh, that boy was a dick, I wonder if he ever got his comeuppance in life”. So I really wouldn’t be bothered by this.

@CornishTiger there were 4 that came up but they all seem connected the woman that is like friends.

@vegang nothing major which is why I shrugged it off he has been in his phone way more than usual and he seems a little distracted and a bit more snappy at me I put that down to being busy at work though but I just don’t know what’s causing this gut feeling :( thank you for commenting

Do not check my FB searches .. shocking they are!

But happily married!

@ManateeFair thank you maybe it’s just because I don’t do it that it made me wonder it could be a case of that too Hense why I don’t wanna go all guns blazing and look a total twat lol

I'm pretty normal but if someone looked at my browsing history they'd never look at me the same again. I don't delete it because I'm afraid it'll mess up my wordle winning streak, which is rather impressive - I think so anyway.

Just to let you know, I was the same but Wordle now let you create an account so it's not lost!

Also have you tried plusword? It's great.

my thought is that you have to actually pay for match, whereas POF / tinder are free. Someone looking to dally or potentially cheat isn't going to pay to go on match. I think no need to worry 🙂

Have you never found yourself in a Facebook rabbit hole skipping from one profile to another? I'm not a big Facebook user but guilty of this on occasion. As long has he isn't protective of his phone, messages etc.

Your instinct is telling you that something isn't right. Chances are, it's spot on.
How is your relationship generally?

I do this ALL the time because I am a nosy, nosy cow. That’s literally all there is to it.

Always trust your gut. His behaviour towards you has changed. My mum always says keep your mouth shut and your eyes open. Maybe it’s all just curiosity but maybe it isn’t, keep an eye out OP.

He’s done nothing wrong on the basis of this information. You however have violated his privacy. It’s controlling behaviour.