New here so apologies if not using correct acronyms etc.
long story short … mother is a narcissist and haven’t spoken to her for over a year( was intermittent prior to this), fractious relationship as controlling, manipulative, liar, influencing kids, bullying, drunk etc.
Still see father rarely due to him not being allowed and then punished if he contacts us.
Brother lives abroad and knows about behaviours but chooses to ignore and isn’t exposed. Thinks we should just all be friends and ignore it (it isn’t minor behaviour ).
Brother is visiting from abroad with new baby, hasn’t been to see us and is ignoring us at my mother’s insistence on upsetting her.
Y’day my father contacted me asking us to look after their dog because they want to go away on holiday with my brother, his wife and the new baby. No one else will have the dog as mother has upset those previously with complaints of neglect about her dog:
NOW one of the many lies and accusations has been that we beat the dog, starve it, don’t walk it etc etc - none of this is true (we have 2 beautiful dogs ourselves) - it is just one of the many controversial and attention seeking stories my mother makes up. One which was the final straw in us not speaking to her. Because we know she is anxious about the dog we had always gone out of our way to give it more attention, walks, care etc.
SO … am I unreasonable to say no to looking after the dog for 2 weeks so they can go away with my brother and if so, should I tell my Dad why we won’t look after it?