To tell you how happy I’m my marriage have ended today thanks to You!

[Salmonellabake]

Hello to all of you!I’m a new poster,but since forever lurker on mumsnet.I have been reading lots of different topics,both entertaining,funny(I especially enjoy cf neighbours and parking threads;I have been graced by both of the above but that’s the endless subject for another time and sad topics such as domestic violence,cheating dipshits of not so DH,divorce etc.I have today made well overdue decision of ending my marriage and although afraid of the new and unknown,not so stable financial situation,my mental health in tatters Im feeling so unbelievably relieved and grateful for all of this nightmare ending.For the first time in nearly 10 years I’m looking forward to something new,both good and the bad,new friends,new experiences,whatever shit of the job I can manage to get,whilst I try to get myself together and improve my mental health.To spending my time and resources on my DD,without her father lingering about,ruining about everything we do.Without seeing my pos of stbxh on daily basis,dealing with his anger,silent treatment and best of all not dealing with his fucking family,hostile bunch which I from now on won’t be forced to see turning up unannounced and listen about their fuckery.No more threads about taking my daughter from me,no more piss around the toilet,no more dealing with abuse.I have been thru quite a lot,but I’m happy and grateful I got out and in great part it finally happened because of my silent lurking on mumsnet and reading advice given to women in similar situations.It helped me to pick myself of the ground,convinced me that I deserve better,that my life is not over and I have things to look forward to!Thank You all strangers,who helped me with their wisdom.I am now free to do what I want,no longer the slave of the circumstances and above it all my own fear.Thanks for giving me strength,now I’m off to my new beginning,single and ready to stay that way till my little girl flees the nest(if not longer),to make more time for her,to the peaceful evening,days out,not feeling constantly on edge!Thank You!Ps.Sorry for such the long,chaotic post!

And look at that
a whole new happy life ahead

I’m really pleased for you. <raises glass>

All the best and positivity op

Congratulations! I also realised I was in abusive relationship from reading threads on here. Leaving has bought me and my kids so much peace and happiness. Good luck for the future you brave person. 🎉😊

Hi,thank You for your kind reply.I’m so excited,I’m struggling to get to sleep.It’s feels so good to be by myself,without worrying whatever else he is going to come up next.Of course he doesn’t understand why I ended it and feels so hard done by,poor blameless mite he is.I haven’t smiled as much as today in a very,very long time.All of the begging,remorse,promises,blaming my mental health and anxiety(I have acquired suspiciously not long after meeting him)which he have send my way since,just making me laugh tonight,as I’m now fully immune to his non existent charms and not afraid of him anymore.

To you and your little girl

Cannot congratulate you enough ,I'm excited for you, genuinely! I finally got away after 13 years married and 3 kids. 20 years later I still do not regret my decision and I still remember feeling just like you do now . Here's to you and your little girl!

Thank You all,It’s crazy,all of that newly found peace seem nearly unsettling.My DD have been asking me quite a lot this evening why am I so happy.I just said that it’s power of frozen and popcorn we have,but she knows the truth.She loves him of course,but she can already feel the benefits of our lives not revolving around him,having me full of energy and silliness,rather that constantly sad,exhausted,not very attentive mother I was for very long time.

Thank You it means a lot that you have taken time to reply and share.Congratulations to you as well,I’m so glad you have found the stench!iIn 20 years I will be well past sending who dis message to him,as for now I have to deal with him,finally from the safe distance.Its scary,he has the form for making me out to be the bad guy,unfortunately in our DD presence I’m not so sure how to deal with that.My own mother used to badmouth my father quite extensively after their divorce,so I’m definitely not doing that,but not sure if and how to defend myself from his accusations.He have not long ago send me message saying,,That bitch have left me,,.Easy to assume that it was meant for my stbxinlaws,they’re also not known for their tact so I’m having little doubts about them telling my DD,it’s my fault and how hurt and poor daddy is.

This has made me so genuinely happy. Congrats OP! You are clearly a brave, strong woman and I bet you and your daughter will have so much joy in your life from here on out

Strength not stench,sorry 🤦‍♀️It’s quite clear I’m past my usual bed time.

Well done! Onwards and upwards now.

Tell your DD that some people are sore losers, and that's their problem, not hers or yours

Great to read you're free OP, well done!! Best advice I can give regarding him and his family badmouthing you to DD is to trust that actions speak louder than words. You keep pouring happiness and positivity into DD to counteract the bitterness and negativity coming from them and she will soon work out that daddy made his own bed.

So concentrate on you and DD, let what they do wash over you as much as you possibly can and get on with your shiny new life. And if all else fails remember parental alienation is a form of abuse and the courts take a dim view of it so you do have some recourse if it becomes necessary. I hope you manage to get some sleep, although excitement is one of the nicer reasons not to be able to Be happy