DSS has come to ours for a couple of days, his mum has just had covid, was positive the day before so i was hesitant about DSS coming so soon as we have a newborn but he tested negative so i said its fine.
However, I said i don't want him holding baby for a couple days to be safe incase he tests positive as a delayed reaction or something.
DSS is a teen anyway and not that bothered about the baby so i figured it would be fine.
Turns out DP didn't tell DSS about that rule as didn't want to upset him even though i gave him a foolproof way of telling DSS so that it would not come across that way.
Baby was in the care of DP for a couple of hours, he went to the toilet, came back and DSS was holding baby.
To be honest maybe it's nothing, maybe the negative test was enough, maybe im being precious who knows. But im furious and hurt that DP didnt tell him and went against what we agreed.
It's our baby who is at risk, his health comes before hurt feelings. DSS has seen the baby loads it's not as if it was the first visit.
AIBU?