Newborn, Bathroom fitting - timings - no idea! Help

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We were due to have our bathroom done this week and next and its been pushed back due to berevement (not my AIBU and currently waiting to speak to fitters to discuss options - am on the case with them because the amount they want to push it back by is ridiculous but no other fitters now available).....

The date we've been offered would mean the work completes 3 weeks before my due date - this is my first baby so I have no idea if thats cutting things fine and I've just been told I have gestational diabetes so I know that baby might need to come early....
AIBU to think this is bit too fine or should it be ok?
Obviously I'm going to have to rethink how the rest of the stuff gets sorted in the house around this which is not ideal but I can deal with that....
But, I really cannot cope with the idea of dealing with post partum and new born with a house full of workmen..... Cant work out whats irrational being pregnant worry and whats rationally not ok!

It does sound like it could be cutting things a little fine there. Have they offered you any other dates?

@AllFreeOwls Sadly not - I've spoken to them and we are top of the list and they may be able to start a week earlier - we booked with them in March - not had a straight answer as to why our work isn't the first to be done but will give him a few days to work things out like he asked me. I hammered home that a due date is not for definite and baby could very well be here sooner rather than later and I cannot have work going on in the house at that time.... URgh!

I wouldn't be too worried about it, newborns don't really need bathroom access (genuinely... can bath in kitchen sink if needed).
But wanted to comment because gestational diabetes does not typically lead to earlier births any more. The aim is usually to manage your blood sugars and stick to due dates (or whenever baby chooses to appear!). This is still often messaging people here (induced early etc) but it's not thought to be beat practice any more. Hope that helps (I had GD with my 3rd)

As a PP said, a newborn doesn't need bathroom access. But you will. You will still be bleeding when you come out of hospital and, if you've needed stitches anywhere, they'll need to be kept clean.
Had my bathroom retiled while I was in having my baby and stupidly thought it'd be ok. Took 1 extra day when I got out, so not a crisis. But was NOT pleasant. Stitches did not like the lack of showering, so ended up with antibiotics.
If you have parents/good friend living round the corner, you could use theirs for a day or so, but you are unlikely to want to travel any great distance tbh.

I'd be honest with your workmen and explain situation. Maybe they can work in a certain order, so if they need to stop for a bit in the middle of the work (e.g if baby makes surprise appearance), you've still got most of a functioning bathroom.

Yes, my main concern was about managing bleeding and a post partum body/stitches infection etc - oh and dignity and privacy that one! - I know baby needs not so much.
Thanks for putting things into perspective think I've had a proportional reaction - have explained to the fitters.
And thank you for the guidance about the diabetes its still all a bit new to me so really reassuring to hear this! Royal mail strikes mean I still haven't got my glucose monitor so totally in the dark still!

My DS is 7 weeks old, we embarked on a kitchen extension, new bathroom and layout rejig when I was 7 months pregnant and we are almost finished (took longer than expected!). Overall I'm glad we did it now while he's portable and only needs me; I wouldn't want to be trying to wean him onto solids or manage a crawling / toddling baby amongst the chaos. He's used to the noise & sleeps through drilling quite happily.

It was manageable BUT I have two bathrooms - I was able to hole up in the bedroom away from the dust, and use the shower room which is a few steps away.

I would not have been able to manage without access to a private bathroom in the first couple of days as, possibly TMI, I had some issues around urgency and if I didn't wee as soon as I felt the need I risked wetting myself (this all resolved within a couple of days and I have no issues with continence now). My lochia wasn't too heavy, but I did need access to the shower to keep stitches clean.

Could you book into a hotel for a few days if baby does arrive early? Or do you have relatives or friends you'd be comfortable staying with? We had the in-laws as back up, & both my parents (separated) offered to have us - luckily we were able to stay at home, I would have felt pressure (from myself at least!) to be sociable & spend lots of time with them when actually I needed to rest & focus on establishing feeding. You might be different though.

I'd also say get all the decisions made beforehand and make sure DH knows what the plan is - write stuff down, diagram for location of things like shaver sockets etc - as neither of you will remember when sleep deprived. Sitting in Howdens at a week postpartum trying to plan a kitchen was a bit of a low point.

is it desperate? Maybe wait until a few months down the line if not. I wouldn’t have liked having workmen in my house and the dust etc when I had a newborn