To feel overwhelmed by life?

[DyingForACuppa]

Two children under 6 who can't play for two seconds without screaming/crying, we're having renovations done on the house so there's noise/mess and not enough room for anything, I'm menopausal (just started HRT), my best friend is dying of cancer (given 1 month), the company I worked for folded so I have no money and much stress about surviving winter price rises, and my DHs best friends son who we have known since birth commited suicide so we're missing the first two days of our week long family holiday to go to the funeral.

Older relatives keep dumping extra tasks on me (planning meals/shopping/booking days out/sorting a birthday celebration while we are away etc) in the holiday planning because apparently I have time compared to them. (All retired).

Aibu to be finding this all totally overwhelming? Or is this just normal adult life and I'm just failing to woman up and deal with it all?

It sounds like you have some especially difficult stuff going on but i think it is normal to feel overwhelmed with all that life throws at you especially when you have children to manage as well.

I found that when i started saying 'no' to things and only doing the things that needed to get done then it improved.

Just say no to organising birthday celebrations /family get togethers all the time. Do combined ones if you have to or just celebrate major milestones especially for adults. Do not do shopping and errands for others unless essential. Do not accept the extra tasks that get dumped on you. Saying no to these things will really empower you and you will feel so much better.

Hopefully the HRT will help - it made quite difference to my ability to 'cope' with the daily grind.